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    Idolatrous Love Between Men and Women & The Love Of A Believer

    Idolatrous Love Between Men and Women

    In the relationship between a man and a woman, the establishment of a mutual bond, outside of that approved by God, is one of the most critical factors leading to "idolatry." It may take the form of marriage, or "living together," which has gained an increasingly widespread acceptance.


    In this romantic understanding of love, the "lovers" show to each other all the duties that should be directed toward God, and they show to each other those feelings that should be reserved for God, as if they had an existence apart from Him. These individuals, instead of keeping God in mind, think only of each other. When they first open their eyes in the morning, instead of thanking their Creator for the new day, they think of each other, seeking to please only each other, not to please God. They are willing to sacrifice themselves for each other, but not for God.


    In short, each turns the other into god. Likewise, when we consider various examples of this warped understanding of love, as has become so widespread in the world, we will find that romantic men and women will openly declare to each other, "I worship you," "Wherever I go, I think about you," and other such expressions. However, wherever one looks, and wherever one goes, the only Being who deserves to be adored is God, the Lord of the Universe.


    As we have been examining, romantic love appears to be an innocent kind of love, though it is a type of "idolatry," reprehensible in the sight of God. However, Satan blinds people to the truth, and so, in this case, he has again warped the truth to make it seem pleasant, and to make people follow the way he shows them:


    By God, We sent Messengers to communities before your time, but Satan made their actions seem good to them. Therefore today he is their protector. They will have a painful punishment. (Qur'an, 16:63)


    Ö Satan made their actions seem good to them and so debarred them from the Way, even though they had been granted insight. (Qur'an, 29:38)


    The Qu'ran calls special attention to the errant passion felt for a woman in this kind of romantic love. The recipient of this love can be any woman: a wife, girlfriend, even a distant "platonic" love. If this kind of love prevents a person from remembering God as he ought, or makes him prefer his beloved in his heart rather than God, it leads that person into idolatry. Of course, this is a threat posed not only for men, but also for women.


    People who live absorbed in this romantic man-woman relationship, are often unaware of the dangers into which they have put themselves. Because of the fact that they have followed their cues since childhood from a misguided society, without knowing that the Qu'ran is their only guide to the right path, they are completely unaware that the way they have been living is a wrong in the sight of God. Because they live their lives without cognisance of God, they become trapped in a mire of ignorance, though, as we said before, they believe they are on the right way. However, because they have no faith in God, their wisdom and understanding have become blind.

    Being caught in this mindless love, men and women, who have made idols of each other, are sometimes led into acts of self-destruction. For example, two young people in love with each other may be deluded to the point of taking pleasure in the idea of committing suicide. When the circumstances do not permit two young people to be together, they may jump off a bridge, hand in hand, in order to "immortalise" their love, or so that "their souls may be together for eternity," or for some such other irrational motive. However, in committing such an act, they are not aware that they are actually throwing themselves directly into the jaws of hell. In committing such a forbidden act, without seeing the error in it, they believe that they will be reunited not with God but with each other after their death. This they will realise when they see the Angel of Death, at their final moment, but it will be too late. We can read in the newspapers of the deeply-saddened letters left behind by people who have committed suicide because of unrequited love. These are clear examples of how romanticism can completely shut up a person's mind and conscience.


    However, when the blindfold is removed, and a person sees that the promise of eternal torment is real, he will finally try to save himself by offering as ransom that partner to whom he had blindly devoted himself, and turned into a god under the influence of romanticism. What these people will ultimately do is described in a verse of the Qur'an as follows:


    Even though they can see each other. An evildoer will wish he could ransom himself from the punishment of that Day, by means of his sons, or his wife or his brother or his family who sheltered him or everyone else on earth, if that only meant that he could save himself. (Qur'an, 70:11-14)


    The same situation is described in another verse:


    The Day a man will flee from his brother and his mother and his father, and his wife and his children: on that Day every man among them will have concerns enough of his own. (Qur'an, 80:34-37)


    The kind of romantic love that leads to idolatry has become acceptable in society as completely "innocent," as "mere romance" and as "true feelings;" it is even praised and encouraged. Usually, it is at a young age that people fall under the influence of romanticism, which prevents the development of their minds and conscience, keeping them ignorant of religion, faith and the purpose of creation. They have forgotten God, and know nothing about loving or fearing Him. Idolatry then becomes the common practise of this misguided generation.


    Television and films often impose romantic and emotional subjects on viewers. They contend that sentimentality is merely a natural tendency in human beings. Romance is one of the most consistent and marketable themes in music, poetry and literature. Satan knows very well that sentimentality is a sickness that prevents people from thinking properly, of recognising reality, of being mindful of God, and of contemplating the purpose of creation and the afterlife, and that it lures people away from practising their religion, and leads them ultimately into idolatry. Therefore, he seeks to mislead society at every turn by means of an intense and constant bombardment of sentimental themes.


    Consequently, those who think that idolatry simply refers to the worship of false-gods, or statues made of stone or wood, should be careful not to regard themselves as immune from this matter, or to be among those who will say on the last day, "By God, our Lord, We were not idolators." (Qur'an, 6:23)

    Source: ]http://www.harunyahya.com/romanticism8.php

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    "I put my trust in Allah, my Lord and your Lord! There is not a moving creature, but He has a grasp of its forelock. Verily, my Lord is on the straight path. (The truth)"
    (11:55-56)

    "...Indeed my prayer, my sacrifice, my living and my dying are for Allaah, the Lord of the worlds" (6:162)

    [This message has been edited by Sadiaa (edited July 18, 2002).]

    #2
    THE LOVE OF A BELIEVER

    In short, directing one's feelings of adoration to anyone other than God, or to any one of His creatures, is a critical cause leading to "idolatry." As for believers, as we said earlier, they adore only God, though they recognise in their fellow-believers, and in creation, the manifestation of His qualities. They love only for the sake of God. They do not love something independently of Him. The Prophet Mohammed also drew attention to this point and said, "Whoever amongst your followers die without having worshipped others besides Allah, will enter Paradise."15 This is both the proof as well as the necessary condition of faith.


    A believer's love is pure and clear as light, and creates a lightness in the heart, because the true object of love is God. For this reason, a believer does not grieve over the death of someone he loves, for his qualities were a reflection of God's, or feel disappointed when he has lost one of his favourite possessions. He knows that the owner of all the material and spiritual good in the object of love, as well as that beauty found in it, was a reflection of God. God is immortal, indestructible, timeless and eternal, and, most importantly, He is closer to a believer than his jugular vein. Therefore, there is no need for concern, because God, in order to test him, has merely temporarily removed that in which He was reflected. If he persists in his faith and right understanding, whatever he wishes for in this world or the next will be given to him in abundance as the beautiful manifestations of God.


    Therefore, there is no situation that would cause grief to a believer, or cause his distress, because he has grasped this secret and attained pure faith. God explains the spiritual state of the believer in these words:


    Those who say, "Our Lord is God," and then go straight will feel no fear and will know no sorrow. (Qur'an, 46:13)

    Source: http://www.harunyahya.com/romanticism8.php

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    "I put my trust in Allah, my Lord and your Lord! There is not a moving creature, but He has a grasp of its forelock. Verily, my Lord is on the straight path. (The truth)"
    (11:55-56)

    "...Indeed my prayer, my sacrifice, my living and my dying are for Allaah, the Lord of the worlds" (6:162)

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      #3
      Asalaam ualikum W'r W'b;

      Yes Indeed, when anything is taken out of the realms of moderation, it turns into an obsession which will prevent us from doing our duty to Allah(SWT), but lets also remember that it is Allah(SWT) who also says:

      030.021: And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are Signs for those who reflect.

      Hence, I believe the question is loving in moderation, and loving for the sake of Allah(SWT).

      [This message has been edited by Mahiwal (edited July 19, 2002).]

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        #4
        Fwd'ing

        Ibn Taymiyyah may Allah have mercy on him said about falling in love:

        subdued, enslaved and enthralled by love for other than Allah, then, this is indeed mere humiliation and captivity. It is the humiliating ubudiyah (enslavement) that has subdued the heart........ But whoeverís heart is enslaved by an unlawful image will
        earn a torment more severe than any known torment. These people who are obsessed by images are of the most severely punished and the least rewarded. For if one is obsessed by an image and his heart remains attached to it and subdued by it, he will be surrounded by so many kinds of evils and corruption that they cannot be counted but by the Lord of al-ibad (the servants) even if he were safe from committing the greatest fahisha (obscenity i.e. az-zina - fornication). Continuous attachment of the heart without committing al-fahisha is MORE harmful for him than it is for the person who commits a sin and repents of it. Since, after true repentance the attachment and affection goes away from his heart. These people who "are in love" are like drunk people or the insane. It has been said:

        "They said you were driven insane by that which you have a passion for. I replied to them that passion causes more harm than insanity"

        As for this passion, the one who is obsessed by it will never awake until the end of time. However, the insane only exhibit their madness during certain periods. Of the greatest causes of this affliction is the heartís turning away from All‚h for when the heart senses the taste of worshipping All‚h and sincerity towards Him, nothing will be more tasty to it than that; and nothing will be more delightful and enjoyable than that. A human being will not leave a lover except to replace him with another lover more beloved to him than the former, or he can leave a lover fearing some harm. Verily, the heart will turn from a corrupt love to a righteous love, or from fear of imparting harm.


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        "I put my trust in Allah, my Lord and your Lord! There is not a moving creature, but He has a grasp of its forelock. Verily, my Lord is on the straight path. (The truth)"
        (11:55-56)

        "...Indeed my prayer, my sacrifice, my living and my dying are for Allaah, the Lord of the worlds" (6:162)

        [This message has been edited by Sadiaa (edited July 19, 2002).]

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          #5
          Hope u get an Ibn Tamiyah approved type of husband Sadia.

          Get a life and walk the moderate road to true Islam.

          These sites are brain washing innocent girls like yrself.

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            #6
            I think whatever sister Saadia has quoted is very true! Gandalf, I dont know what appears odd to you?

            Originally posted by Gandalf:
            Hope u get an Ibn Tamiyah approved type of husband Sadia.

            Get a life and walk the moderate road to true Islam.

            These sites are brain washing innocent girls like yrself.

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              #7
              Jazak'Allahu Khay'run sister

              May Allah(swt) reward you.

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              'Rabbee zidnee`ilmaa'
              My Lord! Increase me in knowledge.[20:114]

              The Prophet (sallallaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) said:
              "Whoever sets out on a path to seek knowledge, Allaah will make easy his path to Paradise."
              [Saheeh Muslim]

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                #8
                Originally posted by Gandalf:
                Hope u get an Ibn Tamiyah approved type of husband Sadia.

                Get a life and walk the moderate road to true Islam.

                These sites are brain washing innocent girls like yrself.
                mderate islam????
                i dint know islam came indifferent versions

                P.S. do u mean moderate muslims who name themselves muslims, will pray if they have time, will fast if they fell like, will drink in a social gathering, who consider the mixing of the genders modernization, who think interest is just like business, who think ppl who try to stick to religion r close-minded, bla bla bla....
                Both Halal & Haram r evident but between them r doubtful things, most ppl have no knowledge about them. So whoever saves himself from suspicious things saves his religion & honor, & whoever indulges in suspicious things indulges in Haram.

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                  #9
                  In the name of Allah, the Compassionate, the Merciful.

                  012.084 And he turned away from them, and said: "How great is my grief for Joseph!" And his eyes became white with sorrow, and he fell into silent melancholy.

                  012.085 They said: "By Allah! (never) wilt thou cease to remember Joseph until thou reach the last extremity of illness, or until thou die!"

                  012.086 He said: "I only complain of my distraction and anguish to Allah, and I know from Allah that which ye know not...


                  [This message has been edited by Different (edited July 29, 2002).]

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                    #10
                    JazakAllah Khair Sister,

                    Keep up the good work to please Allah (SWT) and forgive those who try to break your heart with the words you dislike, and pray for them, so Allah (SWT) show them the righteous path.

                    May Allah (SWT) be pleased with you and reward you for your work. (Ameen)

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