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    Manners when talking to women

    Question:
    I have heard a ruling regarding the reasons a male Muslims is allowed
    to speak to a Muslim female and want to know if it is correct. It
    said that there are only five reasons one may talk to her:

    1. to ask how her family
    2. for medical purposes
    3. for financial purposes (e.g. in a shop)
    4. to find out about her personality for marriage suitability
    5. to give her dawah (Islamic knowledge).

    Is this correct? If it is, please provide the evidence from where the
    ruling is made (i.e. Daleel).


    Answer:
    Praise be to Allaah.

    The conditions for speaking to a woman to whom one is not related are
    mentioned in the following aayaat (interpretation of the meaning):

    ". . . And when you ask (his wives) for anything you want, ask them
    from behind a screen; that is purer for your hearts and for their
    hearts . . ." [al-Ahzaab 33:53]
    ". . . then be not soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease
    should be moved with desire, but speak in an honourable manner." [al-
    Ahzaab 33:32]

    Ibn Katheer, may Allaah have mercy on him, said in his Tafseer: "This
    means that they should not speak softly. Allaah commanded them to
    speak in a concise and decisive manner (i.e., they should be serious
    and brief in their speech, and not be vague or talk aimlessly). There
    should be no possible indication on the face that could be taken to
    indicate any softness in the heart, as the Arab women (before Islaam)
    used to do when speaking to men, by making their voices soft like
    women who are taking care of small children, or like prostitutes.
    Allaah forbade women to do that.

    The phrase "lest he in whose heart is a disease should be moved with
    desire" means lest such a person should hope for immoral deeds,
    indecency or romance. "Speaking in an honourable manner" means
    speaking in a way that does not go against Sharee'ah or offend
    people. Women are encouraged when speaking to men to whom they are
    not related and to mahrams among their in-laws to be somewhat rough
    or abrupt in their speech, without raising the voice, because they
    are commanded to lower their voice.

    Speaking with a woman to whom one is not related (i.e., not mahram)
    should only be for a specific need, such as asking a question, buying
    or selling, asking about the head of the household, and so on. Such
    conversations should be brief, with nothing doubtful in either what
    is said or how it is said.

    The idea of limiting speech with women to the five instances
    mentioned in the question needs to be approached with caution,
    because they could be taken as examples instead of limits. One must
    also adhere to the conditions set out by the Sharee'ah even in
    instances where such conversations are necessary, such as in da'wah,
    giving fatwas, buying or selling, etc. And Allaah knows best.

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    (11:55-56)

    #2
    And here we have 1900 #'s with these women who are "softly" spoken but loud and clear to the men on the other end.

    Whats the world coming to!! . . . the end.

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    Jitna Diya Sarkar Nay Mujko, Itni Meri Auqat Nahi, Yeh Saab Tumhara Karam Hai Aqa, Mujh Mein Aisi Koi Baat Nahin.


    Love happens once . . .
    Rabul MashriqaiN wal MaghribaiN

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      #3
      Choro yar CocoNut kin batoon mein parey ho!
      Lets talk about how cute Meg Ryan is, or let listen to very soft spoken chicks of the Corrs, sending out the messages of love. These things are just so Islamic. I am very sure that you just watch them from behind the screen and just for educational purposes so that you know what type of women to avoid in the future. And I thought that only I was the one who practiced what he preached!
      I'm cold seed, I'm your sweetest leaf
      I'll ease your mind, I'll set you free

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        #4

        Well there is no doubt that Meg is pretty, am i wrong to say that she is?

        The corrs they sing great! I love their songs. Do you want to tell me what your point is with me listening to them?

        Well if you think that I watched movies for educational purposes then ur wrong i watch em because i want to.

        I never preached I just suggested. BIG DIFFERNCE, I never said I was perfect now did I? Or did you assume like the rest of bunch


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        Jitna Diya Sarkar Nay Mujko, Itni Meri Auqat Nahi, Yeh Saab Tumhara Karam Hai Aqa, Mujh Mein Aisi Koi Baat Nahin.


        Love happens once . . .

        [This message has been edited by CocoNut (edited January 13, 2002).]
        Rabul MashriqaiN wal MaghribaiN

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          #5
          Originally posted by CocoNut:

          Well there is no doubt that Meg is pretty, am i wrong to say that she is?

          The corrs they sing great! I love their songs. Do you want to tell me what your point is with me listening to them?

          Well if you think that I watched movies for educational purposes then ur wrong i watch em because i want to.

          I never preached I just suggested. BIG DIFFERNCE, I never said I was perfect now did I? Or did you assume like the rest of bunch


          Masha Allah, how convinient! I like such Islam.
          I'm cold seed, I'm your sweetest leaf
          I'll ease your mind, I'll set you free

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            #6
            Originally posted by Scratch:
            Masha Allah, how convinient! I like such Islam.

            Please please Scratch don't blame the religion by saying that you like such Islam. Islam itself is perfect. Blame me, these are my faults. I'm glad you pointed them out. But hey thats me and obviously between me and HIM where I will end up (isn't it obvious, hell) so again thank you for pointing out the my "conveniences".


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            Jitna Diya Sarkar Nay Mujko, Itni Meri Auqat Nahi, Yeh Saab Tumhara Karam Hai Aqa, Mujh Mein Aisi Koi Baat Nahin.


            Love happens once . . .
            Rabul MashriqaiN wal MaghribaiN

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