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    Concept of Girl Friend in Islam

    dear bro,
    i wanna ask question to all that is there is any concept of girl friend in islam if they are true lovers and they wanna get married


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    #2
    There's no concept of bf/gf in Islam.

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      #3
      Allah ki nigah main Ishq gunaah nahi !!!!!

      Lekin Ishq hai kya ??

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        #4
        Allah se Isqh karna gunnah nahi hai aur Isqh insaano se bhi manaa nahi hai....agar tumari shaadi ho gayi to phir kuch manaa nahi hai.

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          #5
          In current world, if you have seen some girl/boy and both agreed to marry each other then there is nothing wrong in it (I mean nothing wrong in agreeing to marry) BUT you are not allowed to keep any kind of relationship (other than which already exists i.e. class fellow, cousin etc.), only after getting married.

          There is no concept of 'girl friend' or 'mangetar'/'engaged' to allow you to have some relationship.

          PS: if you don't have intention to marry even then you can NOT have any kind of relationship.

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            #6
            Brother,

            You can be with a girl (though a virgin requires permission from her family) via a Mut'ah relationship.

            This is a temporary marriage, which does not have to involve a sexual relationship. It can be used to get acquainted with the girl, prior to a permanent marriage.

            At the end of the stipulated time, you can agree to be together or go your separate ways.

            ws

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              #7
              Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

              “… Wed them with the permission of their own folk and give them their mahr (dowry) according to what is reasonable; they should be chaste, not adulterous, nor taking boyfriends…” [al-Nisaa’ 4:25]

              In his commentary on this aayah, Ibn Katheer (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:

              “Muhsanaat [translated as “chaste”] means that they should be pure, not indulging in zinaa (unlawful sexual conduct), hence they are described as not being musaafihaat, which means promiscuous women who do not refuse anyone who wants to commit immoral acts with them. Regarding the phrase wa laa muttakhidhaati akhdaan (‘nor taking boyfriends’), Ibn ‘Abbaas said: ‘al-musaafihaat means those who are known to commit zinaa, meaning those who will not refuse anyone who wants to commit immoral acts with them.’ Ibn ‘Abbaas also said: ‘muttakhidhaati akhdaan means lovers.’ A similar interpretation was narrated from Abu Hurayrah, Mujaahid, al-Sha’bi, al-Dahhaak, ‘Ataa’ al-Khurasaani, Yahyaa ibn Abi Katheer, Muqaatil ibn Hayyaan and al-Saddi. They said: (it means) lovers. Al-Hasan al-Basri said: ‘It means a (male) friend.’ Al-Dahhaak also said: ‘wa laa muttakhidhaati akhdaan also means a woman who has just one boyfriend or lover with whom she is happy. Allaah has also forbidden this, meaning marrying her so long as she is in that situation…’”

              Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

              “Made lawful to you this day are al-tayyibaat [all kinds of halaal (lawful) foods…]. The food of the People of the Scripture (Jews and Christians) is lawful to you and yours is lawful to them. (Lawful to you in marriage) are chaste women from the believers and chaste women from those who were given the Scripture (Jews and Christians) before your time, when you have given their due mahr (bridal money given by the husband to the wife at the time of marriage), desiring chastity (i.e., taking them in legal wedlock), not committing illegal sexual intercourse, nor taking them as girlfriends. And whosoever disbelieves in the Oneness of Allaah and in all the other Articles of Faith, the fruitless is his work, and in the Hereafter he will be among the losers.” [al-Maa’idah 5:5]

              Ibn Katheer (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:

              “Muhsineen ghayr musaafiheen wa laa muttakhidhi akhdaan (‘desiring chastity (i.e., taking them in legal wedlock), not committing illegal sexual intercourse, nor taking them as girlfriends’). Just as Allaah imposed the condition of chastity on women, meaning that they refrain from zinaa, so it is also imposed on men. The man must also be pure and chaste. So they should be ghayr musaafiheen, meaning they should not be adulterers who do not refrain from sin and do not refuse any who come to them (for immoral purposes). Nor should they be muttakhidhi akhdaan, meaning those who have girlfriends or female lovers with whom they have an exclusive relationship, as quoted above from Soorat al-Nisaa’. (The one with many lovers or the one with just one lover) are both the same. For this reason Imaam Ahmad ibn Hanbal (may Allaah have mercy on him) said that it is not right to marry a promiscuous woman unless she has repented, or to arrange a marriage of such a woman to a chaste man, so long as she is still conducting herself in this manner. Similarly, he (Ahmad) says that it is not right for a promiscuous man to marry a chaste woman unless he repents and gives up his immoral conduct, because of this aayah… We will discuss this matter in further detail after quoting the aayah (interpretation of the meaning):

              “Let no man guilty of fornication or adultery marry any but a woman similarly guilty, or an unbeliever: nor let any but such a man or an unbeliever marry such a woman: to the Believers such a thing is forbidden.” [al-Noor 24:3]

              Among the stories that show that it is forbidden to have girlfriends or to marry them is the story of Marthad ibn Abi Marthad, who used to smuggle Muslim prisoners-of-war from Makkah to Madeenah. There was a prostitute in Makkah, called ‘Anaaq, who had been a friend of Marthad’s. Marthad had promised to take one of the prisoners from Makkah to Madeenah. He said: “I came to the shade of one of the gardens of Makkah on a moonlit night, then ‘Anaaq came and saw my shadow by the garden. When she reached me, she recognized me and said: ‘Marthad?’ I said, ‘Marthad.’ She said: ‘Welcome! Stay with us tonight.’ I said, ‘O ‘Anaaq, Allaah has forbidden zinaa (unlawful sexual relations)’ … I came to the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and asked him, ‘O Messenger of Allaah, should I marry ‘Anaaq?’ The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) remained silent and did not answer me at all, until the aayah ‘Let no man guilty of adultery or fornication marry any but a woman similarly guilty, or an Unbeliever; nor let any but such a man or an Unbeliever marry such a woman; to the Believers such a thing is forbidden’ [al-Noor 24:3 – Yusuf ‘Ali’s translation] was revealed. Then the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘O Marthad, Let no man guilty of adultery or fornication marry any but a woman similarly guilty, or an Unbeliever; nor let any but such a man or an Unbeliever marry such a woman, so do not marry her.’”

              (Reported by al-Tirmidhi, 3101; he said: it is a hasan ghareeb hadeeth).

              ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Maghfal reported that there was a woman who had been a prostitute during the days of ignorance (before Islam). A man passed by her, or she passed by him, and he touched her. She said: “Stop it! (Mah! A word connoting a rebuke or denunciation). Allaah has done away with shirk and had brought Islam.” So he left her alone and went away, still looking at her, until he walked into a wall, hitting his face. He came to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and told him what had happened. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “You are a man for whom Allaah wishes good. When Allaah, may He be blessed and exalted, wishes good for His slave, He hastens the punishment for his sin, so that it is dealt with before the Day of Resurrection.” (Reported by al-Haakim, 1/349, who said this hadeeth is saheeh according to the conditions of Muslim, and al-Dhahabi agreed with him. See Saheeh al-Jaami’, 308).

              These aayaat and ahaadeeth clearly indicate that it is haraam (forbidden) for men to have any kind of friendship or relationship with non-mahram women (women to whom they are not closely-related and to whom they could get married). The evil consequences and misery caused by such relationships are obvious to anyone who observes real life. A similar question has been asked under #2085. We ask Allaah to keep us far away from that which is forbidden, to protect us from all that may earn His wrath and to keep us safe from a painful punishment. May Allaah bless our Prophet Muhammad.

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              A1shah, would you recommend that kind of approach towards your family members as well?

              ...that explains everything...

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                #8
                Basit,

                First of all, I'm not going to induldge in a debate on mut'a. That has been done several times before. There is a school of thought that allows it, and I'm presenting it here as an option.

                The garbage in yr posting refers to prostitutes. What we are talking about is mut'a.

                Yes, mut'a, which was permitted by the holy prophet (pbuh) and banned by Umar. And as far as allowing it for one's family is concerned, unless you have the audacity of Umar the innovator, who would dare oppose the laws of Allah (swt) and his prophet (pbuh).

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                  #9
                  Originally posted by a1shah:
                  Brother,

                  You can be with a girl (though a virgin requires permission from her family) via a Mut'ah relationship.

                  Again we could discuss on this issue MUT'AH is it allowed or not?! And if so i dont think you need a permission of your family!!
                  Now is MUT'AH valid or not. SHIA's say it is and Sunni say no... Quran says it is but Hazrat Umer made it unvalid.


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                  "kaisay na karta usko main pyar, uski haseen main sukh thay hazaar, bichar gayay hum dukh ki hay baat"
                  Ain't new ta this....HOMEINVASION('93)

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                    #10
                    Originally posted by a1shah:
                    Basit,

                    First of all, I'm not going to induldge in a debate on mut'a. That has been done several times before. There is a school of thought that allows it, and I'm presenting it here as an option.

                    The garbage in yr posting refers to prostitutes. What we are talking about is mut'a.

                    Yes, mut'a, which was permitted by the holy prophet (pbuh) and banned by Umar. And as far as allowing it for one's family is concerned, unless you have the audacity of Umar the innovator, who would dare oppose the laws of Allah (swt) and his prophet (pbuh).

                    Ppl made wrong use of it thats why UMER banned it. And Basits posting refers even to those who make wrong use of Mut'ha......
                    ...you think its okey perform Mut'ha and just for your sexual relief and afterwards break up with this person?!

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                    "kaisay na karta usko main pyar, uski haseen main sukh thay hazaar, bichar gayay hum dukh ki hay baat"
                    Ain't new ta this....HOMEINVASION('93)

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                      #11
                      Originally posted by a1shah:
                      Basit,

                      First of all, I'm not going to induldge in a debate on mut'a. That has been done several times before. There is a school of thought that allows it, and I'm presenting it here as an option.

                      The garbage in yr posting refers to prostitutes. What we are talking about is mut'a.

                      Yes, mut'a, which was permitted by the holy prophet (pbuh) and banned by Umar. And as far as allowing it for one's family is concerned, unless you have the audacity of Umar the innovator, who would dare oppose the laws of Allah (swt) and his prophet (pbuh).


                      So your sister (if you have one), daughter (if you have one), they too can tark part in Muttah?

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                        #12
                        Originally posted by Alpha1:

                        So your sister (if you have one), daughter (if you have one), they too can tark part in Muttah?


                        I asked him the same question, but instead he just babbled non--sense and failed to answer the question.

                        A1shah, since you take hadith from our books(bukhari and Muslim, etc.) Should I present you with a hadith that says that Muta was prohibitted at the time of Mohammad when need of muta was not necessary? Would you take those hadith as facts and not throw them off the table just because they disagree with your life style and your personal needs?

                        Oh wait, you did answer my question and it looks like as if you would recommend muta for your family members as well.


                        ...that explains everything...


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                          #13
                          Originally posted by Abdul Basit:

                          I asked him the same question, but instead he just babbled non--sense and failed to answer the question.

                          A1shah, since you take hadith from our books(bukhari and Muslim, etc.) Should I present you with a hadith that says that Muta was prohibitted at the time of Mohammad when need of muta was not necessary? Would you take those hadith as facts and not throw them off the table just because they disagree with your life style and your personal needs?

                          Oh wait, you did answer my question and it looks like as if you would recommend muta for your family members as well.


                          ...that explains everything...


                          Do u think I do not know about those hadiths in yr sahih book ?

                          And do u think I don't have the means of prooving why those hadiths are false ?

                          Seems like u never learn. Post them and get ready.

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                            #14
                            Why, do u feel wierd when a man touches yr sister or daughter on the night of the wedding ?

                            As long as the laws of Allah (swt) are maintained, why should you feel anything ? Allah (swt) has more right over yr sister and daughters than you do over them.

                            Mut'a is an Islamic right given to us by the mercy of Allah (swt) and his holy prophet (pbuh). As with all rules, there are regulations that have to be followed.

                            If you choose to make mut'a into prostitution, then why do I need to bother with the likes of u.

                            Your affairs are with Allah (swt) alone.

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                              #15
                              Originally posted by Ali_R:


                              SHIA's say it is and Sunni say no... Quran says it is but Hazrat Umer made it unvalid.

                              Then make yr own judgement. Qur'an says it is. Umar says its not. These are yr own words. Then who's correct - Shias or sunnis ?

                              Search for the truth.

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