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    Hijab gals get this all the time, 'n so i'm just curious as to how others answer this q's, 'n guys too even though i know u don't wear hijabs, just pretend

    You're standing at the busstop minding your own business, when a complete stranger comes up to you and asks 'Why do you cover your head?'

    Or maybe you're in the lab, trying to carry out this mindtwisting procedure, which btw should be real simple since the whole thing is written out for you already step by step, but as usual everything's different when u get to the lab 'n so finally u've got everything under control 'n just sitting there waiting, and the person across from u asks, 'I'm just curious, I hope you don't mind my asking, why do you wear that ummm...that ummm' If u're feeling generous u usual offer the word scarf otherwise u let them bumble around '...on your head?'

    How would you answer the q's--what would you say to them?

    Ibrahim says: salaams to all

    the simplest answer would be that you are "worshipping God by wearing a hijab".

    Because that was a command from Allah and who ever obeys HIs comands are worshipping HIM.

    Anyway this article by a sister might help.

    Hijaab is an Attitude, not a Fashion
    (and it's for Men Too!!)

    By Fawzia Malik

    Wearing the Hijaab isn't just a matter of simply putting a piece of cloth on your head, it is an attitude, a way of thinking and behaving, and accepting yourself for who and what you are. Basically it constitutes an Islamic way of life, it is a statement which indeed should portray a certain attitude.

    A woman may indeed wear a long skirt and a scarf, but if she flirts constantly, then she can't be really described as wearing the Hijaab (Indeed clothes should be long, loose and not see through, after which any style of clothing is applicable). The whole idea involves conducting oneself with dignity at all times (that means running for the bus and boisterous behaviour in public is not a good idea!!). As previously mentioned, the Hijaab depicts a statement, and that is something one should be continually aware of. It identifies you as a Muslim, and ultimately people will judge Islam by you, and that is a heavy responsibility!! Yet sisters, we must also be thankful that by wearing the Hijaab, we go a long way in fulfilling our duties of Dawah. Curiosity prompts people to question us, giving us the opportunity to show the non-muslims the beauty of our religion. O.k., so we may get the stares at times (to which one rapidly becomes immune), but it is amazing how many are sincerely interested, oh and not to forget the redoubtable old British ladies on the Tube ("Oh I do like your headdress, my dear!!!").

    Hijaab isn't meant to restrict you from doing the kind of things you want to do, it is a blessing because it makes us check our behaviour continuously, preventing us from doing the things that muslims shouldn't be doing anyway. Anything (with the blessings of the Almighty, is possible) -studying, working etc. etc. -provided it is within the bounds of Islam (Halal).

    Sometimes, however the decision to wear the Hijaab can become extra complicated through external pressures, notably family and friends. Unfortunately, even some muslims nowadays look upon the Hijaab as being too "extreme", and the like and when these attitudes come from members of your family then the decision becomes all the more difficult. Speaking from experience, things do change, because ultimately, you are doing this for Allah (s.w.t), and he will make it easy for you, by "softening" the hearts of those that may not be all that encouraging. Eventually they themselves will want to follow you because deep down they know that it is the right thing to do. If that doesn't help, then this should convince you:

    On the authority of Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him), who said that the Prophet (may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said : Allah the Almighty says:

    "I am as my servant thinks I am...If he draws near to Me a hand's span, I draw near to him an arms length; and if he draws near to Me an arm's length, I draw near to him a fathom's length. And if he comes walking, I go to him at speed."

    On the other side, it is important to ascertain the motive for wearing the Hijaab. If you are thinking of wearing it to please your husband, to impress people at the mosque, or just as a change, then please think again. Hijaab (as with everything else) is to please Allah (s.w.t) only, any other motive will not sustain that conviction.

    A word also to our brothers; Hijaab may seem to be merely a woman's issue, but that is not so. Muslim men have to follow a dress code too, no matter if it isn't as extensive as for women it still exists! The men, like women, should also wear loose clothes -so no tight fitting jeans please!! Their attitude to all women should also always remain respectful and business like, as the women's attitude to men should be.

    Finally, all of the above pales in significance to the words of our Creator (s.w.t):

    Say to the believing men
    That they should lower
    Their gaze and guard
    Their modesty: that will make
    For greater purity for them:
    And Allah is well acquainted
    With all that they do.
    And say to the believing women
    That they should lower
    Their gaze and guard
    Their modesty: that they
    Should not display their
    Beauty and ornaments except
    What (ordinarily) appear
    Thereof; that they should
    Draw their veils over
    Their bosoms and not display
    Their beauty except
    To their husbands, their fathers,
    Their Husband's fathers, their sons,
    Their brothers or their brothers' sons,
    Or their sisters' sons,
    Or their women, or their slaves
    Whom their right hands
    Possess, or male attendants
    Free of sexual desires.
    Or small children who
    Have no carnal knowledge of women;
    And that they
    Should not strike their feet
    In order to draw attention
    To their hidden ornaments.
    And O ye Believers!
    Turn ye all together
    Towards Allaah in repentance that ye
    may be successful.

    (Al -Quran, ch.24:30-31)


      Ask yourself why you wear a hijab (if you do).

      That should be your answer.


        The simple answer would be because I am a Muslim and Muslim women dress moddestly as prescribed in Islam. You can add that Bible and Torah also have similar guidelines for women; and other religions also have aspects of moddesty. Tell them, it is just the matter how much one takes pride in his/her religion and takes pleasure to follow it.

        If they still insist or are very interested to know more or if you feel to do Dawat-ul-Islam then you should also mention in detail and answers to the objections they raise from the many articles on Hijab you must have read.

        Also, reading this article on Hijab by Dr. Zakir Naik would be really helpful:



          If they arn't happy with any of your answers...
          Make them read a long cut n paste article here at gupshup......
          They wouldn't dare to ask this again


            I always hear this argument from women that i'm not ready to wear hijab.. or 'when i'm read i'll wear it' or 'hijab is for religious women'. What gets me is the attitude that Hijab is supposed to be a bad thing. Wearing Hijab has been ordained by Allah, just as praying or fasting has. If we dont' pray, we dont' say praying is bad.. in the same way, if you don't wear hijab, it's because YOU don't want to - not because wearing hijab is bad.



              Make it simple, pretty short and to the point.

              Firstly, we are ordered to cover our adornaments in the Qur'aan, therefore we are obeying Allahs law. Part of a womens beauty has always been measured by the hair in all cultures and beliefs. Hair is part of the adornaments.

              Reason for cover is so that no man lusts after us, we do not attract unneccessary attention and when dealing with us you are dealing with our intellect and not our sexuallity, which is the difference between the east and west, muslim and non muslim.

              Thirdly, this is our identity, as you can tell a mile of, especially in the west, that the woman is a Muslim.

              Finally, do not forget to keep the rolling pin in the handbag, just in case someone gets out of line!!!!


                Hehe....yup I get that sometimes. The question that I've answered the most is.." How come you cover your head/wear a hijab/scarf, but your sister and mom don't?" And then along with that is..."Were you forced into wearing it???"

                The thing is..we don't question why one jewish man wears a beard while his bros/father don't. Or how one guy goes to church on a sunday and others don't?? You know what I mean??? There are varying degrees of commitment and datz it.

                "Labaik, Allahumma Labaik, Labaik La Sharika Laka Labaik, Innal Hamda Wa N'amata Laka Wal Mulk, La Sharika Lak." "Here I am at your service, O Allah, here I am. Here I am at your service and no partners do you have. Verily All Praise and All Bounty belong to you, and Yours alone is The Sovereignty. No partners do you have."

                [This message has been edited by Hinna (edited August 01, 2001).]
                22.1 . O mankind! Fear your Lord . Lo! the earthquake of the Hour ( of Doom ) is a tremendous thing .


                  Good answer by bro K-2. Yes, I think we should tell them that its our religion who asks to dress modestly.

                  We oughta be Changez like, don't we?


                    Hinna, sometimes u get the wierdest questions *makes a face* sometimes i have to fight to keep myself from grinning or rolling my eyes

                    You guys, thanks *wry smile* its kinda interesting to see your replies. Most of you are right, you want something short, simple and straight to the point, and at the same time you want to be polite, sympathetic and understanding towards their lack of understanding/knowledge, and also encourage their interest...


                      ask: y arent YOU wearing one ?

                      ~Survival of the smartest~


                        Well you should say "Because I dont want to end up like you. You know in hell and all that." with a smile and they wont ask again, but they might get mad


                          Honestly, most people are asking out of curiosity and it is good that they want to know. It seems that most people in the US don't know the basic fundamentals of Islam so it is good to inform them in a simple, concise answer.

                          It sometimes is annoying to get the same question over and over again. Depending on your mood, you can expand but most importantly point out about modesty in Islam.


                            I like article of F. Malik....

                            **Ya Rab dil e muslim ko woh zinda tamanna de,
                            Jo qalb ko garma de, jo roh ko tarpa de!**
                            **Alama Iqbal**


                              Or you can say "I am for my husband's eyes only"