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    I have heard . . .

    It sounds kind of unrealistic but after the nikkah they say that you should perform the the husband wife duty. And if IT is not performed then when Valima is celebrated, the food is haraam.

    I did not like the sound of that, is it true or false?

    Jitna Diya Sarkar Nay Mujko, Itni Meri Auqat Nahi, Yeh Saab Tumhara Karam Hai Aqa, Mujh Mein Aisi Koi Baat Nahin.

    Love happens once . . .
    Rabul MashriqaiN wal MaghribaiN

    Totally false.

    There are millions of muslim
    couples who get the "Nikah" ceremony
    done but postpone the "rukhsati"
    for later.

    And valima usually takes place
    after the actual wedding reception.

    So then the husband and wife are told islamically to
    keep at distance from each other
    even after the "nikah" unless "rukhsati"
    takes place.


      con·sum·mate (kns-mt)
      tr.v. con·sum·mat·ed, con·sum·mat·ing, con·sum·mates

      1) To bring to completion or fruition; conclude: consummate a business transaction.
      To realize or achieve; fulfill: a dream that was finally consummated with the publication of her first book.

      2) To complete (a marriage) with the first act of sexual intercourse after the ceremony.
      To fulfill (a sexual desire or attraction) especially by intercourse.

      adj. (kn-smt, kns-mt)
      Complete or perfect in every respect: consummate happiness. See Synonyms at perfect.
      Supremely accomplished or skilled: “Sargent was now a consummate master of brushwork” (Roberta Smith).
      Complete; utter: a consummate bore.

      This is not totally false. BTW why does it sound bad to you. This is the most natural desire and outcome of a perfect marriage, be it religious, ethical, philosophical or humanistic way.

      [This message has been edited by analyze it (edited July 26, 2001).]


        Aznalizy it

        yes islam does say to start ur
        sexual relations right after u get married.

        But if "rukhsati" has not taken
        place, islam forbids
        to get into anything sexual.

        And either way the concept of
        the valima food being haram,
        doesn't seem right.

        Then again i am not the religion
        expert here, so what do i know!



          1. Rukhsati has nothing to do with Islam, and is merely a cultural tradition. After the Nikah has been performed the couple is considered to be husband/wife, and the intimate relations between them are therefore made lawful. Nikah is the only instition which is accepted by Islam. Engagement, mangni, rukshati are all strictly cultural phenomenon.

          2. Valima is not affected in any manner, if the marriage hasn't been consummated.

          And God knows the best.

          ~Survival of the smartest~