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Who Should Make Da'wa To New Muslim Sisters?

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    Who Should Make Da'wa To New Muslim Sisters?

    I bring this to attention because I know new muslimbrothers and sisters who have expressed similiar stories...

    Who Should Make Da'wa To New Muslim Sisters?
    By Sahar Kassaimah 14/05/2001

    There is no doubt that Muslim women play a vital role in the propagation and spreading of the proper understanding of Islam, through da'wa, (invitation). Da'wa amongst women began in the first days of Islam, with Khadijah, (RA) the Prophet's wife (SAW), who used her resources to help spread the message of Islam. Sumayyah (RA), the first martyr in Islam, also provides an honorable example of a woman dedicated to furthering the religion.

    But how many Muslim women have the proper understanding or even accurate general knowledge of their religion? How many Muslim women possess the capabilities needed to offer da'wa?

    Stories I heard from my American Muslim friends both amused and distressed me as I learned how they suffered at the beginning of their journey to Islam, because their Muslim - born female friends did not have the proper capabilities to offer da'wa.

    "I was myself ignorant about Islam and then discovered how ignorant they were," said my American Muslim friend. "I was confused and depressed to the point that I cried every night."

    "One sister told me that I should say, "La Ilaha Ila Allah, Muhammad Rassoul Allah" (there is no God except Allah and Muhammad is His Messenger) a hundred times every night before sleeping. Another one gave me du'aa (invocations) and told me to read them ten times a night," said another American Muslim friend.

    "It was hard for me in my first days of Islam to learn the basics of my new religion and to recite the Qur'an in my prayers. I couldn't imagine how I would be able to make an extra hundred du'aa a day?"

    A third woman told me that a Arab woman told her that every time she has intercourse with her husband, she must wash the sheets seven times. Once, her husband saw her going back and forth to the laundry room more than ten times and became confused as to what she was doing.

    "He asked me what I was doing," said my American friend. "When I told him that I had to wash the sheets seven times, he was astonished and he explained to me that this was not true."

    "I was really confused. One sister was telling me that I should put my hands over my stomach, as another told me that this was wrong, and that I should pray with my hands down at my sides," she said.

    "A Pakistani sister told me it is forbidden in Islam to sweep at night, and that if I wanted to go to heaven I should never hold the broom at night," said another American friend. "I was really scared of brooms after that, especially at night."

    Newly Muslim women face such misguidance from the Muslim - born women because of the issue of pluralism. Some Muslim sisters do not understand that the pluralism of opinions in the subsidiaries (far'eyat) is not intended to constrain people but to provide different paths. Hence, they ask the new Muslim sisters to follow them, believing that all of the opinions are obligatory.

    "In the end, you find yourself confused due to the many opinions of women who do not know the difference between the obligatory (fard), the Sunnah (the practices of the Prophet), and the recommended (mustahab)."

    I do not know whether all of the Muslim women converting to Islam face these kinds of problems, but I am sure that the single ones are more vulnerable to these experiences than the married ones, who have a Muslim husband to correct them.

    One major reason behind this problem is that some Muslim women do not have the capability to offer da'wa to others because their own level of general Islamic knowledge is lacking. An additional reason is the confusion of Islamic priorities among some Muslim women. Unfortunately, they do not know the difference between the religion and their traditions, and believe that all Muslims should follow the same mazhab (school of thought).

    It is difficult for new Muslims, who often have little information about Islam, to realize whether or not their guides are truly versed in the teachings of the religion. This makes for a precarious situation when they are seeking the accurate information needed to guide them on their journey.

    Before offering da'wa to others, one needs to realize that it is our responsibility to obtain knowledge and educate ourselves first before we can begin to help or teach others.

    I cant believe how much i laughed at some of the things people told reverts to do. what kind of knowledge do us muslims have? we really seem lost. lets hope we all change for the better-insha-allaah.


      That was a good article, truly an eye opener. It forces you to think not only about how much people depend upon you and look to you for guidance, but also makes you evaluate your own capabilities of doing the latter.

      When someone asks you something, giving an answer is a huge responsibility in that you have to be absolutely certain of your answer, so that you do not lead people astray, confuse them, or cause them unecessary stress.

      Another important point, I want to make is, that alot of us here have been 'born' muslim and brought up as muslim. Yet, many of us practice our faith blindly, without developing an understanding of what it is we are doing...and why. And that is wrong, because its incumbent upon us to know what it is we are practicing, saying, etc.. Merely doing something because our mother or father did it before us isn't good enough. And it is because so many of us follow/practice our faith so blindly that the situations described in the article arise.