joint family system.

[suroor_ca02]

its not that big in pakistan anymore.. how do u feel about it? wud u live with ur inlaws? or with the families or ur brothers (usually) and sisters.

personally i dont think i can live with big family because i have never lived with anyone. we alwayz lived separately .. i like to have my own space and privacy. big families seem to be lot of fun but there is alwayz some sort of conflicts and politics going on. does that effect ur kids?
what r ur thoughts on this issue : )

[Sheraz CT]

so you wouldnt want to live with ur inlaws?

[mAd_ScIeNtIsT]

Wouldn't mind living with the in-laws (when I get some)... extra hands helping with child raising

[suroor_ca02]

Originally posted by Sheraz CT:
so you wouldnt want to live with ur inlaws?

if it works out .. then i wudnt mind.. but i wud prefer to live separately. not with my parents nor his.

[Mehnaz]

Under no circumstances would I ever live with my future in-laws. That's how problems start! A marriage can be hard enough without adding the additional pressure of in-laws watching your every move, constant interferring in matters between the husband and wife as well as lack of privacy. I've seen too many households go down in flames cause of this system with mothers, sisters and daughter-in-laws all fighting with one another putting the men in the household into a difficult position by making them choose sides.

However, on the opposite side of this are families that make it work and actually do live happily together.

I, personally, would choose not to live with any in-laws though.

[moona]

Mehnaz, I'm with you on this one girl.

[Jal_Pari]

yup totally agree with Mehnaz here. My personal preference is not to live with in-laws. We spend so many years living with parents and siblings which is good but there is a time after marriage when person needs privacy, independence and space.

[belle]

I agree with the privacy issue ,BUT what happens if your in-laws are dependent of their son, lets say for health or financial reasons,you guys would than just make your husband abandon his parents?

[seeker]

I wonder how would all of these girls who now are demanding "privacy" and "space", would react when their own daughter-in-laws would refuse to live with them.

[Roman]

Originally posted by seeker:
I wonder how would all of these girls who now are demanding "privacy" and "space", would react when their own daughter-in-laws would refuse to live with them.

They would understand.

[Sharaabi]

wats up wid aj kal di kurrian....

I dont care about others but I would defn. not leave my parents alone for any girl. These girls live with their parents all their life, but when it comes to in-laws they say they want privacy...How selfish could one be.

[Sharaabi]

Originally posted by seeker:
I wonder how would all of these girls who now are demanding "privacy" and "space", would react when their own daughter-in-laws would refuse to live with them.

worse even....if they get bhabhis with the same attitude.

Oh I am sure they would'nt mind their parents living alone, would they??? After all their bhabhis and brothers do need some privacy....dont they

[seeker]

Originally posted by Sharaabi:
wats up wid aj kal di kurrian....

I dont care about others but I would defn. not leave my parents alone for any girl. These girls live with their parents all their life, but when it comes to in-laws they say they want privacy...How selfish could one be.

of course.. no girl in the world is worth to leave your parents for even a single day. I am amazed to see girls having such haughty contempt for their in-laws when they very well know that some day they would be mother-in-laws too. What goes around comes around.

[seeker]

Originally posted by Sharaabi:
Oh I am sure they would'nt mind their parents living alone, would they??? After all their bhabhis and brothers do need some privacy....dont they

hahahaa....one thing is for sure...these guppans wont come to GS to look for their brother's spouse.

[Sharaabi]

hahaha....oh yeah