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    Is this an overeaction

    Friend comes across a post on her fiances page about forgetting some girl.a ghazal shared in urdu of some other poet Messages him to clarify. He says its just poetry and poetry in genreal is deep etc and not personal ( he seems offended) ..she does not really believe him ( again because of this one post) and actually wants to end this ( marriage was planned in few months) she thiks he is not really interested and is bieng pushed into this marriage and is trying to forgt some one

    Is she overeacting?
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    Re: Is this an overeaction

    Originally posted by Life01 View Post
    Friend comes across a post on her fiances page about forgetting some girl.a ghazal shared in urdu of some other poet Messages him to clarify. He says its just poetry and poetry in genreal is deep etc and not personal ( he seems offended) ..she does not really believe him ( again because of this one post) and actually wants to end this ( marriage was planned in few months) she thiks he is not really interested and is bieng pushed into this marriage and is trying to forgt some one


    Is she overeacting?
    Everyone has a past there are always people you will have fond memories of, sometimes for the rest of your life. Our past makes us who we are. Your friend is definitely overreacting. If the boy says he wants to marry her then she should believe him and not make assumptions.
    It is his job to prove that he is the best man she could ever have and hers to prove that she is the best woman he could ever have.

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      #3
      Re: Is this an overeaction

      Completely depends on their mutual understanding and acceptance of eachother. If she does not have a past herself and does not want to have or think will not be happy with such a man then it is her personal preference. However, if the guy treats her good, respects her and values and appreciates her and partnership with her then that is what matters the most than his past. On the other hand, if her company is actually making him miss his past even more that he cant stop making mentions of it then maybe she should rethink marrying a guy who is more into his past than his present.

      It completely depends on how much strongly both feel for one another and whether they are truly excited about presence of the other in their lives & are excited about spending a life time together, make a family. Major dissatisfaction with your husband/wife to be over any aspect is a red flag and must be discussed between them before long term commitment.

      Does the girl feel strongly about him to look past his past? If not then she needs to give herself some time to decide before ending or making a long term commitment to the guy. But as I said if he truly respects her and treats her well then she should not end it as that is what matters the most than anything else.
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        #4
        Re: Is this an overeaction

        She should trust her gut feeling. I have heard that excuse before, the one "oh it is just poetry". Unless he is a poetry enthusiast, writes poetry in his spare time or has poetry books etc. this excuse is pretty bs.
        Anything worth doing is worth doing well.

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          #5
          Re: Is this an overeaction

          You're reading too much into it, people post all kinds of stuff on social media.

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            #6
            Re: Is this an overeaction

            Originally posted by aqua70 View Post
            She should trust her gut feeling. I have heard that excuse before, the one "oh it is just poetry". Unless he is a poetry enthusiast, writes poetry in his spare time or has poetry books etc. this excuse is pretty bs.
            Even if somebody had a break up, they might wanna move on.

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              #7
              Re: Is this an overeaction

              I think she is bothered because he posted such a thing after being engaged to her says it it just poetry and was offended when questioned. There is alot of poetry that can be shared to share one that is so specific about forgetting a girl is a bit wierd
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                #8
                Re: Is this an overeaction

                Originally posted by third string View Post
                Even if somebody had a break up, they might wanna move on.
                Yes, they might wana move on before getting engaged to someone else though!
                Anything worth doing is worth doing well.

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                  #9
                  Re: Is this an overeaction

                  Originally posted by aqua70 View Post
                  Yes, they might wana move on before getting engaged to someone else though!

                  He is really into poetry apparently very fond of literature but even then the choice of poetry is odd and kind of disrespectful to his current relationship.
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                    #10
                    Re: Is this an overeaction

                    Thinking of calling off the marriage because she thinks she read something between the lines? Totally absurd. Social media has totally nuked common sense
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                      #11
                      Re: Is this an overeaction

                      Originally posted by Life01 View Post
                      He is really into poetry apparently very fond of literature but even then the choice of poetry is odd and kind of disrespectful to his current relationship.
                      If you are talking about Urdu poetry, have you read any of the famous poets? There isn't too much of a 'i am in a relationship' poetry anyway.

                      If she doesn't trust him or believe him that's more of a reason to break it off though irrespective of his choice in poetry.
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                        #12
                        Re: Is this an overeaction

                        Originally posted by Eastern Dresses View Post
                        If you are talking about Urdu poetry, have you read any of the famous poets? There isn't too much of a 'i am in a relationship' poetry anyway.

                        If she doesn't trust him or believe him that's more of a reason to break it off though irrespective of his choice in poetry.

                        ye but i think it would have been a big deal if she had posted some poem about forgetting some guy and missing him etc.
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                          #13
                          Re: Is this an overeaction

                          Totally overreacting. I agree with Silaaj on this. Commen sense naam ki koi cheez rahi hi nahi.
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                            #14
                            Re: Is this an overeaction

                            Step 1: Guy posts a poem on social media
                            Step 2: Girl gets suspicious and msgs him to clarify
                            Step 3: He clarifies that its just a poem.

                            Now this should be it. You get concerned, you asked question, you get a reply. So the whole matter should finish now. But no its a typical desi situation so there gotto be a step 4.

                            Step 4: Girl now thinking to finish everything based on step 1.



                            So why did she even ask him if she didnt want to accept the reply. Thats so stupid. If this is the level of trust she's got then I guess its better to finish now then later cuz with this "my way or highway" attitude, its bound to break.
                            Attitude is more important than facts.
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