If your dad took a second wife..

[Deeba1234]

..whilst still married to your mum what would you do? How would you deal with it?

(and no, this is not happening to me)

[Doppleganger]

Re: If your dad took a second wife..

Hypothetical vs. reality is totally different.

[~MuNiYa~]

Re: If your dad took a second wife..

My mom's a terror I totally get it.



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[Mad Hatter]

Re: If your dad took a second wife..

Depends on if your mum was okay with it. I know a few people with two wives and it's usually cos the first wife couldn't have kids. otherwise...dunno

[KKF]

Re: If your dad took a second wife..

Allah na kare...to answer your question i would say depends where we live.

if we live in a country where polygamy is illegal, i'll inform the authorities and take him to court.

if we live in a country where it's legal, i'll give him a choice...either he does NOT marry another woman, or he must divorce my mom. if he chooses latter, i'll take my family with me and just chuck him out of our lives for good.

[Ramsha]

Re: If your dad took a second wife..

Even if my mom was okay with it I would find it weird.

[TLK]

Re: If your dad took a second wife..

..whilst still married to your mum what would you do? How would you deal with it?

(and no, this is not happening to me)

because second marriage is not as horrible as we made it sound (because its much better than someone's dad sleeping with another woman, which btw happens so often in our society), i say that it depends upon the reasons of that second marriage.

[Deeba1234]

Re: If your dad took a second wife..

^In theory it's not as bad as adultery but the way a lot of men practise it in real life can be worse (eg first wife and family being totally neglected in favour of no.2, constant lies and little to no financial support with possibly a whole life ahead of that for them as opposed to maybe a short fling or affair.. swings and roundabouts really I guess)..

I wonder how many women could forgive or get over a single short affair as opposed to a permanent 'other woman?' Esp if lies are involved in both cases..

To those who are fine with it (or even encourage their husbands to go down that route) good for them..

[Pepsi ki Botal]

Re: If your dad took a second wife..

i wouldn't acknowledge her. they can live in their own little world. can't really stop adults, you can reason with them i guess.

[Deeba1234]

Re: If your dad took a second wife..

^What about the kids.. new half-brothers and sisters? Do you think you'd acknowledge them or keep a distance?

[Pepsi ki Botal]

Re: If your dad took a second wife..

^i'd be cordial or indifferent. they have nothing to do with others actions..

[Deeba1234]

Re: If your dad took a second wife..

Hypothetical vs. reality is totally different.

What do u think would happen in reality?

[xjatti2khanx]

Re: If your dad took a second wife..

My friend's dad took a second wife nearly a year ago ( they all live here in uk )
and has kids with the first wife who are all grown up.

At first the kids didnt want to know him and felt betrayed,hurt even hatred for him.
But the first wife even though wasnt happy or in agreement wanted her husband to fulfill his responsibilities as a father
to his kids so made sure he did all the things he did before like trash out, pay their bills ( some of ) drop off/pick up kids from college

The kids now have to go along with their mum's decision to have him there doing his job and only speak to him if they have to
In a way why give him the easy way out and swan off with the 2nd wife? make him feel the stress of running two households...

Now though that anger is back as my friends dad has now had a baby with 2nd wife - and they don't know how to feel
should they feel resentment? should they ask how the baby is?as this was bound to happen one day or another...

Dont know what i would have done if it was my dad....but for sure would give hubby hell and he knows it so wouldn't dare

[Demilitarize]

Re: If your dad took a second wife..

this is one of those situations where no matter what you say, it wouldnt be how youd actually act in that situation

[annie bibi]

Re: If your dad took a second wife..

i would feel bad.
very bad.
very hurt.
and i would hate him.
'werent we enough for him?' this question would bother me alot.