A friend of mine got married about 2 years ago, a little background. Happily arranged from both families, no financial problems, living in The States, none of these in-law issues on either sides, both professionals, care for each other, no kids.
The problem. He has a slight gambling problem. In the past year he has been playing online poker/ matched betting and has lost about $1000. As she explains, the issue is the fact that he IS involved in gambling and wasting his time/energy/money/ and of course the religious affects.
She confronted him about this 3 days ago, and they got into an argument, where she said that she's going into those websites and withdrawing the money on his behalf. Basically he became extremely defensive and slapped her across the face. He has never hit before, BUT he also did not apologize, even until now.
She's the very traditional type of a girl, that if he had apologized and realized what he had done right there and than, she would move past it and not make a big deal. But because he seems to think his aggression was okay that night, her fear is it will happen again. But she's too scared to take the step of involving family, just because of one slap.
So her question, is the line drawn at the first slap for a separation or involving the family in this matter? What are the chances he'll do it again, considering he never hit before BUT at this point seems to think he has done nothing wrong. She is too ashamed to go to her parents.
She'll also be reading this thread.
The problem. He has a slight gambling problem. In the past year he has been playing online poker/ matched betting and has lost about $1000. As she explains, the issue is the fact that he IS involved in gambling and wasting his time/energy/money/ and of course the religious affects.
She confronted him about this 3 days ago, and they got into an argument, where she said that she's going into those websites and withdrawing the money on his behalf. Basically he became extremely defensive and slapped her across the face. He has never hit before, BUT he also did not apologize, even until now.
She's the very traditional type of a girl, that if he had apologized and realized what he had done right there and than, she would move past it and not make a big deal. But because he seems to think his aggression was okay that night, her fear is it will happen again. But she's too scared to take the step of involving family, just because of one slap.
So her question, is the line drawn at the first slap for a separation or involving the family in this matter? What are the chances he'll do it again, considering he never hit before BUT at this point seems to think he has done nothing wrong. She is too ashamed to go to her parents.
She'll also be reading this thread.
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