Arghhh help with sister in law wot shud I do

[msis]

My SIL went on holiday to a place which is cheap to buy stuff from and all she got me was a fridge magnet. I said to her couldn't you have got me something for even a fiver that liked. And she said there was nothing in that country to buy . I've been informed by a reliable source exactly what she bought. She knows and acknowledged in the past that we have the same taste as each other and she is clear that I hate designer stuff so I am easy to buy for .

I don't ask her to get something for me in each country either as I know some countries are expensive but this one is definitely not. Thing is if I went on holiday and saw something I liked that's not where I live I start thinking about automatically buying one for my mum and SIL. Tell me how to handle this as I m really upset

[Disney Princess]

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Be grateful she thought of you and got you something. This is definitely nothing to be upset about, or have a hissy fit over.

I understand your upset, and you would like to be treated the same way as you would treat others, but people have different thoughts going through their heads, like not spending too much on gifts. We all have budgets for these things, and maybe hers was tight.

[msis]

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Just to add I know the above sounds trivial but it's the tip of the iceberg not matter wot I do she doesn't like me. This is the first time I said wot I said above otherwise I usually keep quiet and let things pass.

[hareem01]

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Wow.

[Reha]

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Who cares? I don't see how this matters in the least. You're her bhabi, not her mother.

Why does it matter what she got you?

[ehl-e-chamman]

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errrr
ppl are not required to gift each other.
if you really don't like current gift exchange format ... then change it! .... as in don't buy her anything either.

[msis]

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Who cares? I don't see how this matters in the least. You're her bhabi, not her mother.

Why does it matter what she got you?

Think it's bothering me bcos she expects me to believe that it is too expensive to buy stuff there says she bought nothing but then says yes by the way I bought x by the way I bought y and then oh yes a, b, c and so on. Y is buying me a magnet if she's telling me
conflicting stuff. Would have been better if she didn't even get me a magnet. Maybe my issue is that I like to think of her as a sister and not sister in law

[Reha]

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Think it's bothering me bcos she expects me to believe that it is too expensive to buy stuff there says she bought nothing but then says yes by the way I bought x by the way I bought y and then oh yes a, b, c and so on. Y is buying me a magnet if she's telling me
conflicting stuff. Would have been better if she didn't even get me a magnet. Maybe my issue is that I like to think of her as a sister and not sister in law

Well, even my sister isn't really required to gift me things. Gifts are not obligations...they're gifts...optional.

Your expectations are wayyyy too high.

[S02]

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I can't believe you confronted her about it.

[KKF]

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i think a gift is NOT about it's value but rather about someone who thought about you as an important person in his/her life. i agree that one must NOT be cheap. however, having said that, the recipient of the gift must be thankful and accept graciously.

next time when you go on a trip buy her a more expensive gift and, hopefully, she will realize that she should give you a gift at least at par with yours...

...for now, be cool, accept it gracefully and move on!

[Reha]

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This is why desies get high blood pressure people

[Lusi]

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My SIL went on holiday to a place which is cheap to buy stuff from and all she got me was a fridge magnet. I said to her couldn't you have got me something for even a fiver that liked. And she said there was nothing in that country to buy . I've been informed by a reliable source exactly what she bought. She knows and acknowledged in the past that we have the same taste as each other and she is clear that I hate designer stuff so I am easy to buy for .

I don't ask her to get something for me in each country either as I know some countries are expensive but this one is definitely not. Thing is if I went on holiday and saw something I liked that's not where I live I start thinking about automatically buying one for my mum and SIL. Tell me how to handle this as I m really upset

Well next time buy something similar, don't go crazy over buying things...simple as that!

[msis]

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i think a gift is NOT about it's value but rather about someone who thought about you as an important person in his/her life. i agree that one must NOT be cheap. however, having said that, the recipient of the gift must be thankful and accept graciously.

next time when you go on a trip buy her a more expensive gift and, hopefully, she will realize that she should give you a gift at least at par with yours...

...for now, be cool, accept it gracefully and move on!

In the past I have done as you suggested but not on a trip ie got something I thought she would like and it wasn't cheap. I had said to her if you dint like I will return it and get what u want. She didn't thank me until after 3 weeks and then after 3 mnths said she didn't like it to another member of the family and asked them to ask me if she could return it!

[msis]

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Well next time buy something similar, don't go crazy over buying things...simple as that!

Yes I think I will do that the next time

[NomiCA]

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magnet seriously??

u should gift her a lota next time......