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    So being in the middle east right now (both UAE and Saudi) I have seen how normal 2nd, 3rd, 4th marriages are. Infact for the richer Sheikhs having 'keeps' (women your right hand posseses) is also quite common. also temporary marriages are also practiced even among Sunnis.

    In comparison, to me, Pakistani culture seems much better for women. I mean usually Pakistani men have less double standards, and rarely have 2nd marriages, there's zero concept of keeping keeps etc in the normal population. anyways so I am a bit curious about what Pakistanis think of 2nd marriages etc. in my experience in the middle east an Arab man is never considered truely marrid or taken, he is always looking for the next wife. Sometimes the first wife is looking for a 2nd wife since she's tired etc. This sort of stuff is seen and heard in schools colleges etc... like if a woman got married at 12 or 13 now that she's gotten to college she'll look for a 2nd wife for her husband so that she can get a masters or something! (this is stuff from personal expereince of meeting women through friends and family!)

    Anyways just curious about the paki perspective in all this....

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    if they are fair with their wives, fulfill their rights and need and treat them nicely then there is nothing wrong in having multiple wives. why don't you share what these wives of those sheikh's have to say about their lives as 2nd, 3rd , 4th etc wives.
    HTD/S11: To fool your enemies, you must first fool your allies.
    ARY: baighairton ka badshah

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      #3
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      Hmm well there's a language barrier.... the info I get is throgh a few freinds who are American (pakistanis) and are English teachers or private English tutors. I think their perspective (some of them) is different, they've grown up in houses where there were 2 or 3 wivies and so on so its normal for them. I mean Pakistani women are not used to it because they didn't see their mothers and grand mothers be co-wives. Its a different perspective, and very male centered. It also helps that people are rich so they can divied their income fully.

      I have heard its almost a shame for a man to have just one wife here...

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        #4
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        so then why you want to have a pakistani perspective on something that has nothing to do with pak..be it cultural or social. i didn't mention religion because polygamy is allowed in islam only under various rules and regulations.
        HTD/S11: To fool your enemies, you must first fool your allies.
        ARY: baighairton ka badshah

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          #5
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          Just curious because we are the same religon yet so different from eachother......its just a conversation man why do you have an attitude, you dont' have to respond!

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            #6
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            ^ janay do...i know ur enjoying my replies. :halo:
            HTD/S11: To fool your enemies, you must first fool your allies.
            ARY: baighairton ka badshah

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              #7
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              saieen baba
              ***Behekti Chokri***

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                #8
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                the pakistani perspective? women will never allow it and while men may huff and puff abou their rights....majority of htem will never follow through with it.

                i'm all in favor of polygamy
                The grass ain't always greener on the other side, it's green where you water it.

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                  #9
                  People can do whatever they want and be happy about it, however, as for me, i'll be cutting his legs off before he goes for a 2nd wife:biggthumb!!!

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                    #10
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                    He is having trouble handling me...how the heck will he manage two???

                    I know Islam allows it but under certain circumstances...not just to have sex left and right and reproduce like rabbits with no means to provide for these children and families.

                    If you can do it, your wife agrees then go for it. If your wife doesnt agree...dont set yourself up for failure.
                    Set your life on fire. Seek those who fan your flames. ~ Rumi

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                      #11
                      how is a woman going to handle a sothan when it is hard enough handling women like mil and sil.

                      oh god. halellujah i don't live there!

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                        #12
                        kapary walli - can you tell me - if the man is getting 2nd, 3rd, 4th wife... then is the woman allowed to BE SOMEONE ELSE'S - girlfriend - and still be his wife?

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                          #13
                          Originally posted by shoponline4kaprey View Post
                          So being in the middle east right now (both UAE and Saudi) I have seen how normal 2nd, 3rd, 4th marriages are. Infact for the richer Sheikhs having 'keeps' (women your right hand posseses) is also quite common. also temporary marriages are also practiced even among Sunnis.

                          In comparison, to me, Pakistani culture seems much better for women. I mean usually Pakistani men have less double standards, and rarely have 2nd marriages, there's zero concept of keeping keeps etc in the normal population. anyways so I am a bit curious about what Pakistanis think of 2nd marriages etc. in my experience in the middle east an Arab man is never considered truely marrid or taken, he is always looking for the next wife. Sometimes the first wife is looking for a 2nd wife since she's tired etc. This sort of stuff is seen and heard in schools colleges etc... like if a woman got married at 12 or 13 now that she's gotten to college she'll look for a 2nd wife for her husband so that she can get a masters or something! (this is stuff from personal expereince of meeting women through friends and family!)

                          Anyways just curious about the paki perspective in all this....

                          This doesnt answer your question but what does finding a second wife got to do with doing masters?

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                            #14
                            i dont understand y some paki women go insane if someones talking about polygomy....is nt it better if husband gets nikahfied rather then having an affair or cheating.
                            "What doesn't kill you makes you stranger." wohhoo shout out to the joker

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                              #15
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                              i must say i dislike saudi fashion in this matter. they take marriage too easy, much of it has to do with affluency. i have yet to see a person who treats both wives fairly. it is not such an easy thing.

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