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    Five Languages of Love

    I met up with a few of my old mates last weekend. One, who has been married for two years and another who has a live in relationship with her boyfriend. The married friend said that this book has changed her life and her and her spouse often find themselves referring back to the book.. and my other friend was also reading it too.

    has anyone else read it?

    heres what its about

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    The Five Languages of Love
    UW-Eau Claire Counseling Services


    How many times do we hear about people not feeling loved by their partner, much to the partner’s surprise and frustration? According to Gary Chapman, author of “the Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate” it is often the case that love is there and being expressed, but not in the “language” that the loved one understands. Each of us has a primary language of love…ways that we express love and things we see as expressions of love. If we can learn and use each other’s love language we can increase the quality in our relationships.

    Gary identifies these five love languages as:

    *Words of Affirmation. An unsolicited compliment, a kind word, and words of encouragement are very powerful. Mark Twain once said “I can live for two months on a good compliment.”

    *Quality Time. This means togetherness and personal connection, not just being physically nearby. Learn to have a quality conversation, really listening to each other. Take time to have fun together. Do things you each enjoy; explore new activities together.

    *Receiving Gifts. The message here is that the gift giver was thinking of you and wanted to let you know. Expense is not the main thing – it’s the meaning. A favorite treat picked up on the way home or a card for no reason sends a priceless message.

    *Acts of Service. Cooking, washing the car, laundry can be acts of love. Challenge the stereotypes. Doing something that is helpful to your loved one will be noticed, if it is their language of love.

    *Physical Touch. A hug, a kiss, holding hands, and sexual intercourse are all ways of communicating love. Research indicates that positive physical contact is important to emotional health; some say you need four hugs a day. Do you know your partner’s primary love language? If you aren’t communicating your love in ways your partner understands, your relationship may suffer.
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    I think i may get a copy...
    happy happy happy... happy happy happy

    #2
    Re: Five Languages of Love

    Sadzzz...This makes me feel so mushy...:mush:
    Focus not on who you are but what you do...
    ])>:::}-:Salams:-{:::<([

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      #3
      Re: Five Languages of Love

      Originally posted by Lajawab
      Sadzzz...This makes me feel so mushy...:mush:
      lajjo, ajj kal app bohut chehek rahay ho, khairiyat to hai?
      - I swear to drunk I am not God :-/

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        #4
        Re: Five Languages of Love

        ^ agree... u ok lajo jee?
        happy happy happy... happy happy happy

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          #5
          Re: Five Languages of Love

          Mera chehekna aap logon ko bura lag raha hai?
          Focus not on who you are but what you do...
          ])>:::}-:Salams:-{:::<([

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            #6
            Re: Five Languages of Love

            ^ bilkul nahien.. bas tajjasus hora hai? app ko kabhi chehektay howay gs par dekha nahien kabhi.
            - I swear to drunk I am not God :-/

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              #7
              Re: Five Languages of Love

              Originally posted by suroor_ca02
              ^ bilkul nahien.. bas tajjasus hora hai? app ko kabhi chehektay howay gs par dekha nahien kabhi.
              Suroor, You notice too much...Read my quote and let me chehek...

              I drunk to god, I am not swear...
              Focus not on who you are but what you do...
              ])>:::}-:Salams:-{:::<([

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                #8
                Re: Five Languages of Love

                :-O lajjo! u quoted my not-so-halal signature!

                shud i declare a fatwa on u?
                - I swear to drunk I am not God :-/

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                  #9
                  Re: Five Languages of Love

                  good advice, cute

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                    #10
                    Re: Five Languages of Love


                    Life is never easy.

                    These things are definitely required for a good relationship. But the author forgot about the most important one, the partner itself. I am thinking of following the author's advise, but failing to have a partner....

                    One more thing, if I get a partner at some stage in life, and say my partner have also read these things and there is something wrong among us and when I try to amuse my partner with these techniques, I got an answer:

                    "Don't try to please me with the old tricks, Gary Chapman used to play and have stated in his boook,,,,,......."

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