not marrying for...

[Degas]

I have distant cousin who hasnt married and is almost 40.. the reason seems to be that he has a sister who couldnt marry and is younger than him.. In our culture girlsare supposed to marry earliar if age difference between brothers and sisters is not much.. I dont know if he would ever marry if his sister dont get marry.. I know each person has his/her own nasib or fate but is it right not to marry for this reason? These people though take it a cultural duty upon themselves at these circumstances....

[SalmanNY]

IMO its 'Jhaloun Wala Kaam'. Fine Ghairat Aik taraf, but marrying is sunna-e-rasool. If he is established and all....., I fink he should marry for the sake of this niyat that he is helping out someone's ELSE sister.

I bet there are many sisters out there who are old and are not married becuase people like him are not marrying because of his idiotic reason.


-Salman

[Goliko]

I guess he is older than his sister...so he should go ahead and marry...Besides as you have already said...it's all fate...than there seems to be no reason to wait...

[Sara516]

or maybe he's just using that as a coverup ...u never know

[Degas]

Originally posted by Sara516:
or maybe he's just using that as a coverup ...u never know

that may be the case for him individualy.. but its so widespread in our society.. thousands of cases all around us..

[sadzzz]

Salman, that was a bit harsh.. u know the Jhaalon wala kaam bit..

i have an uncle, my dads good friend.. and he is in his mid 50's now and unmarried.. neither of his brothers and sisters are married (all above 40).. now to some it may seem jahil or watever.. but unless you really know the person or understand the circumstance, u should never label them so harshly..

sabki majboorian hothi hain.. and if we are not willing to understand.. lets not badmouth either.. thank u

[Umer]

My 2nd eldest cousin (daughter of my Phupo) is in her fourties and not married. First she concentrated on her studies all her life (she´s a doctor) and wouldn´t even consider marrying. And then she had reached a stage where she just turned down every proposal she would get, saying "I am too old now.". 3 of her 4 brothers (all younger than her) did marry however, because they didn´t see any possibility of her getting married at all and therefore did not "wait". And I guess Brother number 4 will also get married soon.

[Nilu]

I think it is so old fashion now to marry ur sister and then
the brother married after his sis is marry.
But like i read it still happens by the Desi pplz.

[Sara516]

my personal exp, im 19 and my brother's 25, and he's not set on marrying anytime soon...my parents aren't gona wait for him tho coz they know i want to get married soon...whoever finds someone first shud get married, it's that simple

i had a cousin who didnt get marreid til she was 30..they looked for years and years and when she finally did get hitched, her little sister (22) got married in a second

[Muslim_Queen]

Thats ridiculous.He shouldnt be sitting around waiting.

[faisaljawed007]

one of my dad's childhood friend is in mid forties and he is still single. Lot of my relatives convinced him to get married but he never actually tried. I know that he had a large family (i think around 11 brothers and sisters) and him being one of the oldest, he wanted to get his sisters marrried first. But all his sisters are married now and I dont really know whats holding him back from a marriage. So most of the time, it really does depend on the circumstances for that individual.