There are so many different shades of human skin color. Some are black, some white, some in between. This basically includes every possible shade of brown, from very pale to white to nearly as dark as totally black. Every region or area has its own native general skin complexion, like europeans are mostly 'white', and africans 'black', or chinese, who are referred to as 'yellow'. Every area or region has its own perception of beauty, or wats sexy and desirable.
In Pakistan, most of us are whats known as brown, and a few shades light or a few shades dark. Generally in our society a gora chitta person is considered more desirable or beautiful or more attractive. Every maa wants a gori chitti dulhan for her son, and an average girl desires a gora chitta gabhru jawan.
I was having a discussion with a couple of friends regarding this whole skin complexion and this gora and kala dilemma. Both my friends(females) thought every desi guy wants a gori chitti wife. I somewhat disagreed to it, because its kind of a generalization, declaring that every desi guy wants a gori chitti biwi. The problem here is, as a personal preference, I do favor a fairer girl. Its got nothing to do with looks or personality or that no she has to be a gori chitti sexy hot wife. I would like to think that I am not that superficial. But I am a bit confused. I mean okay we are out of the stone age, we are educated people here mostly, and most of us would like to think that we dont just go for looks and its overall personality and everything, but is having a preference in skin color really such a bad thing? I am not talking about choosing a totally hot gori chitti kuri who has no personality whatsoever over a very talented and bright girl with a good personality whos dark and not as 'lucky' as the gori girl when it comes to looks. I am talking about, if you had a choice, between two girls with really nice personalities and both are pretty smart and intelligent and sensible, one fair and the other a bit dark. If the guy prefers a lighter skin, which doesnt mean he thinks dark is ugly, but just personally prefers a lighter skin, is that really being unfair to the darker girl?
I dont know if i made any sense here but my question basically is,
Is it a bad thing? having a personal liking for a certain skin color over another? I am talking marriage here.
I mentioned this to a couple of my friends who both happened to be females, and told them that I,m not being a superficial shallow ******* when I say that I would fancy a lighter skinned girl over a dark one if I had the choice between 2 girls who both had a nice character and personality.
They both happen to have gandami to sanwali skin color and they both thought that it was disgusting that every desi wanted a gori larki... which ofcourse unfortunately included me as well, and although I never meant to say that I would choose a gori kuri even if she was a ***** and would leave the kaali out even if she was a really nice girl. Ofcourse not! I would go for a dark skin girl if shes a better girl than the gori miss, but then again, they would say or think, oh so we are second choice now! which really made me think... I mean I would never want to hurt anyone ever... but maybe I did. And that made me very uneasy, and I have been questioning myself all day, about whether its okay, or is it totally wrong to have a preference of a personal liking of skin color? Is desiring a fairer "nice" wife fair on the dark "nice" girls? I think its not :-(
but is it wrong to have a liking for a skin color?
Mods please DONT move it to shore sharaba or khail khilari, cos it belongs here. Serious replies please.
In Pakistan, most of us are whats known as brown, and a few shades light or a few shades dark. Generally in our society a gora chitta person is considered more desirable or beautiful or more attractive. Every maa wants a gori chitti dulhan for her son, and an average girl desires a gora chitta gabhru jawan.
I was having a discussion with a couple of friends regarding this whole skin complexion and this gora and kala dilemma. Both my friends(females) thought every desi guy wants a gori chitti wife. I somewhat disagreed to it, because its kind of a generalization, declaring that every desi guy wants a gori chitti biwi. The problem here is, as a personal preference, I do favor a fairer girl. Its got nothing to do with looks or personality or that no she has to be a gori chitti sexy hot wife. I would like to think that I am not that superficial. But I am a bit confused. I mean okay we are out of the stone age, we are educated people here mostly, and most of us would like to think that we dont just go for looks and its overall personality and everything, but is having a preference in skin color really such a bad thing? I am not talking about choosing a totally hot gori chitti kuri who has no personality whatsoever over a very talented and bright girl with a good personality whos dark and not as 'lucky' as the gori girl when it comes to looks. I am talking about, if you had a choice, between two girls with really nice personalities and both are pretty smart and intelligent and sensible, one fair and the other a bit dark. If the guy prefers a lighter skin, which doesnt mean he thinks dark is ugly, but just personally prefers a lighter skin, is that really being unfair to the darker girl?
I dont know if i made any sense here but my question basically is,
Is it a bad thing? having a personal liking for a certain skin color over another? I am talking marriage here.
I mentioned this to a couple of my friends who both happened to be females, and told them that I,m not being a superficial shallow ******* when I say that I would fancy a lighter skinned girl over a dark one if I had the choice between 2 girls who both had a nice character and personality.
They both happen to have gandami to sanwali skin color and they both thought that it was disgusting that every desi wanted a gori larki... which ofcourse unfortunately included me as well, and although I never meant to say that I would choose a gori kuri even if she was a ***** and would leave the kaali out even if she was a really nice girl. Ofcourse not! I would go for a dark skin girl if shes a better girl than the gori miss, but then again, they would say or think, oh so we are second choice now! which really made me think... I mean I would never want to hurt anyone ever... but maybe I did. And that made me very uneasy, and I have been questioning myself all day, about whether its okay, or is it totally wrong to have a preference of a personal liking of skin color? Is desiring a fairer "nice" wife fair on the dark "nice" girls? I think its not :-(
but is it wrong to have a liking for a skin color?
Mods please DONT move it to shore sharaba or khail khilari, cos it belongs here. Serious replies please.
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