I Need My Space

[CocoNut]

Why is it that the husband and wife choose to keep secrets from one another?

Why is it that they need space from one another? Their own private get-away from the one person they spend the rest of their lives with?

Some have said that they keep secrets out of love for each other. To further the matter they say, they do it so that the other will not be hurt.

The concept of keeping secrets with the significant other is completely oblivious to me.

I can't fathom having a private space. I mean, for the love of god, as a couple you've shared a bed and then they decide to keep some things private from one another?

The list of secrets to keep or private belongings run from i.e. past, a private stash

WHY?! Someone shed some light on it...please.

[Rumii]

I would never tell my husband about my stuffed aniamls!

[~MuNiYa~]

Too much of anything isnt good for you help.
I dont believe in keeping anything from my hubby but I can understand that needing your space deal.

I mean I did have a life before I was a wife.. I have friends that arent mutual friends... I do still want to be able to do things that I like but he doesnt.

and it gives me a chance to miss him. :love:

[cat-woman]

I don't think I could hide anything from my husband, but at the same time I've heard women saying that your husband doesn't need to know everything.

[Mr Fraudia]

needing space and keping secrets are two completely diff things, as are keeping secrets and not sharing every minute bit of information.

[CorruptAngel]

I hate those people (especially women) who give out others' secrets to their spouse. What the heck, why shouldn't you keep it to yourself? why do you HAVE TO tell your husband about it? I just don't get it! I personally wouldn't hide anything about me to my husband but would never ever tell him about others' secrets that I've kept. Why does he need to know?

[Diablo Kazama]

I agree with Fraudia.

I'd think needing your space would mean to be doing things that make you, you; and existing in your cozy lil' personal niche. And this doesn't necassarily have to involve the other person. You might enjoy hiking with ur buddies, she prefers attending the opera with hers. You can apreciate the others wants without having to necassarily participate in everything they do 24/7. And this time away is of course, good fodder to fuel the sizzle in that flame too ;-)

All this doesn't necassarily have to do with keeping it hidden from your partner. Keeping/not keeping certain secrets is relative, but should not compromise the level of honesty in the relationship.

[Rumii]

Originally posted by CurruptAngel:
I hate those people (especially women) who give out others' secrets to their spouse. What the heck, why shouldn't you keep it to yourself? why do you HAVE TO tell your husband about it? I just don't get it! I personally wouldn't hide anything about me to my husband but would never ever tell him about others' secrets that I've kept. Why does he need to know?

You know people like that also? Gosh I hate that, I had a neighbor who used to tell her husband everything I did, I mean come on now, even when I buy boots she told him. I HATE people like that.

Another thing I hate is when husbands or wives speak about their certian things (you know what I mean) to others. That is WRONG and HARAM!

[Vanity_Fair]

Need space..join NASA baby

[CrackPot]

I expect my partner to tel me everything important in her life and I do the same...in fact she's teh only one I can speak my heart to...I could never hide anything from her

[CrackPot]

Although I repest her privacy and I would honor her wish to keep my nose out of some matters espec if I know nothign about it

[KrazyKhan]

Tell her EVERYTHING....no damn way.....

[mehroo]

Oh i wish i could hide somethings from him but as my amie says i am pait ki halki cant hide anything ...hehe

[Matsui]

Space can also mean time. One also needs time to themselves. It is a healthy phenomenon and is one of the key attributes to a succesful marriage. People are individuals. They need to grow together with their spouse and individually as well.

[Ansoon]

i would feel comfortable telling her everything but if she doesn't feel comfortable then that's fine by me.. i understand her need for privacy and as ~MuNiYa~ said.. we all had our own friendship circles she might not like something about my firends and same can happen with me.. but thats wat brings fun into married life.. solving it together.. coming up with a solution hearing each other out and helping each other to get better