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    Just want to ask if its ok islamically to choose ur baby's gender ?
    Also How accurate is the gender choosing method?

    #2
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    This is more of a fiqh based question and I can pretty much guarantee that the maulanas around the world will give you answers that cover the full spectrum from "yes" to "somewhat" to a flat out "no".
    That said, you have to base it on what your heart tells you (and yes I know this sounds corny). Personally, I don't think it is a decision we should be making since:
    1) As muslims, we believe in destiny, and should be grateful just to get a healthy child. Gender inequality is not only wrong but unislamic as well.
    2) The methods for gender selection are not 100% accurate, so if you accidentally end up with the wrong gender, you have to deal with the whole abortion question.
    3) These methods generally rely on the fertilization of multiple eggs and then implanting the preferred embryos. That raises the question of what to do with the "leftovers". Again, there are a lot of ethical considerations here since they can be destroyed, used in stem cell research or other types of research.

    But I digress. My point is, that you should consider the direct and indirect implications of any decision you end up taking. I wish you the best of luck!

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      #3
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      no, it's NOT allowed in Islam.
      Life is NOT measured by the number of breaths we take but the moments that take our breath away!!!
      16 breaths a minute, 23040 a day...NO one knows which one will be their LAST!

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        #4
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        I was given this option when we were going through IVF, but I promptly declined. It felt too much like playing with nature and going against Allah's will. Left a pretty bad taste in my mouth.

        And it would have cost an extra $20,000...the sperm must be sent to a special lab in California where they "wash" it, and test to detect the specific Y or X chromosomes, and then send that sample back for fertilization in the IVF process. my RE told me it was pretty accurate but I still said no thank you!


        


        

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          #5
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          I don't think the Quran directly addresses this issue, but to me, Islamically speaking, it feels wrong. Personally I wouldn't do it.

          Khalil Khan, you very emphatically say it's not allowed in Islam, can you please provide some Quranic reference?

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            #6
            choosing baby's gender

            Think we should just go with Allah talaah's wish. Both genders are gd. :-)

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              #7
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              Khalil khan can you please provide any reference?
              And those of you who are judging me, i seriously would be happy with a healthy child that Allah will give me.

              But all my life i wanted a baby girl(only because a baby girl is a rehmat from God, they love u more, they care for u more and they bring peace for the home). My first born is a boy

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                #8
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                Originally posted by Khalil KhaaN FaaKhta View Post
                no, it's NOT allowed in Islam.
                Please provide a reference.

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                  #9
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                  The Islamic standpoint:

                  'There is nothing wrong with a person wanting a child to be male or female, based on the fact that the Holy Qur'aan refers to the supplication of some of the Prophets asking that they be blessed with a male child.

                  In the light of that, the Council has determined the following:

                  Firstly: It is permissible to choose the gender of the foetus by natural means, such as following a certain nutrition plan, chemical washes, and choosing times for intercourse according to the time of ovulation, because these are permissible means and there are no reservations about them.

                  Secondly: It is not permissible to use any kind of medical intervention to choose the gender of the foetus, except in cases of medical necessity with regard to hereditary diseases which affect males but not females or vice versa. In that case intervention is permissible, subject to established shar‘i guidelines, so long as that is done on the basis of a committee of specialist doctors consisting of no less than three doctors of good character, who produce a medical report stating that the case calls for medical intervention so that the foetus will not be affected by the hereditary disease. Then after that, this medical report should be submitted to the Department for Issuing Fatwas so that they may issue a ruling as they see fit in that case.'

                  Source: Islam Question and Answer - Identifying the gender of the foetus in order to choose a male because of a hereditary disease that affects females
                  Confidence is silent, insecurities are loud..

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                    #10
                    I refuse to believe that you are playing God, or it would be against Islam if you are trying to pick your baby's gender through medical intervention. The fetus is still going to grow and will be be born as a baby, only through Allah's will. So at the end, Allah is in charge of whether you are going to have a baby of certain gender or not, no matter what you do.

                    So if Allah is in charge, then medical intervention is still just a way, just like natural remedies, with no 100 percent guarantees.

                    If you still are not convinced that mufti TLK is right then please tell me that adoption is a sin, cause in adoption I am totally free to pick my baby's gender.
                    People are afraid of what they don't understand

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                      #11
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                      I personally will not do it and wouldn’t suggest get it done too. by choosing a gender of a child you are showing your love and affection your need to one and not the same to the other. Which means your being partial to one of his creation and being not fair to the other. This is not equality which is not liked.
                      Yes all set and done still it will be Allahs will which will prevail, so if one wanted a girl and he gets a boy by Allah’s will, the persons / parent’s love and affection will not be the same to that child as it would have been for the child what he or she wanted. (human nature)

                      Now in the above scenario lets imagine the second child born is the once the couple always wanted, can you think what is going to happen then.

                      If it's Allah's will we are talking about then we shouldn’t be talking about these medical intervention on the 1st place and what the prophet [IMG]file:///C:\Users\s102351\AppData\Local\Temp\msohtmlclip1\0 1\clip_image001.gif[/IMG] and sahabbas did. Pray two rakat of nafel hajat, make sadka, make dua and leave it to Allah as is knows the best and does the best.

                      Adoption and choosing genders are two different issues, please don’t mix both. 1-choosing genders the baby is born is yours, your flesh n blood as they say. 2- adopting is not the same and the child still remains of the original parents and not yours. Allah says in the Qur’ân about adopted children: “Call them by the names of their fathers: that is more just in the sight of Allah, but if you do not know their father’s names, (then they are) your brothers in faith, or your wards, but there is no blame on you if you make a mistake therein: (what counts is) the intention of your hearts.”

                      We can see from this verse that calling one’s adopted ward “son” or “daughter” out of affection without meaning it literally is allowed. The same can be said for an adopted child calling the people who adopted him “father” and “mother” out of love respect. This is perfectly alright.
                      ......Inaalillahe wa inaa alaihe raajeoun....

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                        #12
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                        Most of the scholars of the subcontinent say that this is not allowed.
                        My ancestors come from a place where every superpower one can imagine has come and gone wishing they never made the mistaking of coming.

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                          #13
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                          Deeba1234: The source you provided for the second part doesn't provide ANY Quranic evidence. Where does this nonsense about "no less than three doctors of good character" come from, this is absolute innovation. Haraam!

                          Just for the record, I don't think it IS OK to do it, I'm just looking for Quranic guidance, but your reply, even though it agrees with my personal feelings, is completely fabricated.

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                            #14
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                            Ahmed I am not a scholar but the ayat that comes to my mind is
                            "To Allaah belongs the dominion of the heavens and the earth; He creates what He wills. He gives to whom He wills female [children], and He gives to whom He wills males. Or He makes them [both] males and females, and He renders whom He wills barren. Indeed, He is Knowing and Competent.” [Quran 49:50]


                            also there is a whole portion of Islamic fiqh called qiyas and ijtehad which derives its interpretations from Quran and sunnah in the absence of clear instructions in the Quran.

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                              #15
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                              What if you pick the gender that you were supposed to/destined to have? So if you're happy with the outcome, you were meant to have that. If you accidentally end up with the outcome you're not pleased with, you were meant to have that too.

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