y such hypocricy?

[suroor_ca02]

pure hypocricy!.. this guy i know who goes out, drinks, sleeps around, but keeps an hawk eye on his sister!.. she cant talk to a guy while he can do whatever he wants with girls, no phone calls for her, she goes straight to the class n back home as soon as the lectures r done. if she is seen talking to someone even for studies , he goes crazy!..

y such hypocricy?

" i wudnt let my son or my daughter do anything of that sort, infact i am not even gonna raise them here at all, i am going back home! " oookay.. like ppl dont go out or drink back home eh?

basically he sayz " i can do whatever i want.. but my sister or my kids cant! "

how does that make sense?

[armughal]

lets look at the bright side....
atleast he is doing half his job right....

[confused]

male, and ego, two things destroy the entire humanrace

[~TaNhAyAaN~]

you know thats y I don't like 'aaj kal kae' (some, many?) guys, they never bother to take a look into their own selves. aye barae seriously how the heck you could do 'good tarbiyyat' of your kids if can't make a good example for them. isn't better first you do that ALL you can expect as a parent with your own self?

err little off topic.

and 'why' they do that.. choti choti upri khushiyaaN iss choti see zindagi ki. *sigh*

[~TaNhAyAaN~]

.

[armughal]

^
u better stay quiet, no cchoti cchoti khushiyaan for u....
stay at home, dont go out, no talking on phone, no chatting online, no tv, just do the housee chores, and dream of mouses....

[mAd_ScIeNtIsT]

Originally posted by armughal:
and dream of mouses....

Hehehehe

[Aalhan]

And where are the parents?
Why do parents allow siblings to be parenting
each other? What else is more important then
the upbringing of their children in the
above~described kind of households for parents to be
concentrating their energies upon? What makes
some siblings feel that parents aren't doing their
job right, or all the way or not well enough for them
to feel the need to intervene themselves? What
kind of power~hunger~driven issues lie underneath?
Why isn't your friend bothered by this? And if she is
why isn't she taking appropriate measures? And again
where do the parents fit into all this?

[~TaNhAyAaN~]

bhaiya, I believe there is always two sides of what you can do, remember you can poke your eye with the same spoon you eat.. you see unpleasant uses and good uses.

And don’t you worry I am responsible for myself and I won’t waste my life, insha’Allah, and ya I never said ‘no’ to ‘barhi khushiyyaN’ *grins*

and now will you all please leave my mousy alone?

[Umer]

Re: y such hypocricy?

Originally posted by suroor_ca02:
pure hypocricy!.. this guy i know who goes out, drinks, sleeps around, but keeps an hawk eye on his sister!.. she cant talk to a guy while he can do whatever he wants with girls, no phone calls for her, she goes straight to the class n back home as soon as the lectures r done. if she is seen talking to someone even for studies , he goes crazy!..

y such hypocricy?

" i wudnt let my son or my daughter do anything of that sort, infact i am not even gonna raise them here at all, i am going back home! " oookay.. like ppl dont go out or drink back home eh?

basically he sayz " i can do whatever i want.. but my sister or my kids cant! "

how does that make sense?

I understand, what you're pointing at and completely agree with you! But look at the other side of the coin:

I myself never drank alc, never smoked, never dated. Even that doesn't give me the right to keep an eye on phone calls of my siblings or to tell them, who they should talk to and who not.

But staying away from all this bulls#!t myself, I can expect my little sister and my little brother to refrain from these things too. Am I right?

[Mal1k]

Umer ur right mate, but don't u think that our siblings should be corrected if they r choosing da wrong road....?

[Umer]

Originally posted by mal1k:
Umer ur right mate, but don't u think that our siblings should be corrected if they r choosing da wrong road....?

Of course they should be corrected. But do you think monitoring their whole life would do that? I doubt it very much.

[Mal1k]

Originally posted by Umer:


Of course they should be corrected. But do you think monitoring their whole life would do that? I doubt it very much.

Nope, till they r 18 u should be in control, & guide them 2wardz light not abandon them & let them stray in2 da dark. The dark has got wild creatures, & kids cannot survive. I still ask my parents advice 2day on certain issues, but I try 2 live it on my own.

I agree we cannot restrict them. I've got 5 sisters, I was never questioned by my parents on small issues like - phone calls from galz etc. I don't question my sisters, & I don't have any right over them....plain & simple reason - They r not dependent on me, & even if I earn & give them pocket money, I've got no authority 2 dictate terms & conditions. They r like friendz, & da Almighty has bestowed a relationship which is very beautiful & pure. Respect it.

I don't drink, or hang out in pubs. I smoke occasionally, but its not a habit. My parents know everythin abt me, frm my friendz 2 my earnings & spendings. I think every1 has a choice. Ur rite too mate

[Umer]

Originally posted by mal1k:


Nope, till they r 18 u should be in control, & guide them 2wardz light not abandon them & let them stray in2 da dark. The dark has got wild creatures, & kids cannot survive. I still ask my parents advice 2day on certain issues, but I try 2 live it on my own.

Malik bhai, it seems to me that we don't have different views on this at all. We're just using different ways to explain it.

[Mal1k]

Aight....