behind the hijab.

[suroor_ca02]

"my daughter is very religious Mashallah, she prays five time and wears hijab, unlike some girls now adayz.. patah nahien hijab q nahien pehanti".. that was coming from the aunty who was proudly telling everyone how farishta sift her daughter is. in other words..since i dont wear hijab..i am probably not as seedhi saadhi larki as her own daughter is.

the next day my brother comes to my room and said he saw that farishta hijabi girl in his school making out with this guy in the hallway. it isnt the first time. i know number of guyz who said they'd rather marry a hijabi then a non hijabi. no matter what they r doing behind their hijab?.. i knew number of girls in high school who wud come to the school in the morning with their parents in hijab .. come to the school take it off in the washroom .. wear full make up.. change their shirts ..skip school n go on dates.

hijab is for being modest and hiding ur assets from na mehram but i guess today it also does the work of hiding more things than that.
sad isnt it?

[ammarr]

Suroor !!, that topic has been beaten to death here..heh but anyway. If the girl comes to your school/college etc and then takes off the hijab and makes out with some guy etc, how does that fall under the category of doing hijab anyway? She isn't doing hijab..just being a hypocrite..everybody knows that?

[Shikra]

first of all........meney pahli line parh kar socha k AAPKI beti
phewwwww......now to the topic.

yeah it's so sad that these girls do this........i also know some hijaabi girls who don't talk to muslims but have american boyfriends

[~TaNhAyAaN~]

suroor, we merely bound hijaab to a scarf wearing on head, hiding your hairs.. even though we all know hijaab totally should be in your eyes, there is ayah in Quran clearly stated it:

"Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for them: and Allah is well acquainted with all they do. And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments…” (Qur’an, Surah Al-Nur 24:31)

Thus factually, hijaab should be in both men's and women's eyes, cuz eyes are the most direct path to the heart. And if you do that you will automatically be aware of what to do with yourself.. like how to impose your own self to others et cetera..

so even if we don't wear hijaab on our head cause of some reason no one have right to say you and I are less muslimah than any other, we must leave it to Allah subhana-ho-wa'talah.

umm.. I would love to quote Ibn al-Qayyim (rahimahullah) here, In regard to these verses he says "So He (Allah) put purity after lowering of the gaze and protecting of the private parts. For this reason lowering the gaze away from the prohibited things warrants three great benefits. The first of them is the sweetness of Iman and the pleasure that comes from it, which is more sweet and pleasing than that which he diverted his eyes away from for Allah's sake. Verily, whoever abandons a thing for Allah's sake, He (swt) compensates him with better than it…The second benefit is a light in the heart and quality of intuition…and the third benefit is the strength of the heart and steadfastness and courage. So Allah (swt) would give him, by His strength, the ability of wisdom and substantiation, and the devil would flee from him as it has been mentioned in the saying, "Whoever fears his whims, the devil would race out of his shadow."

there is no compulsion in Islam, but we can always try to do our best, what's in our heart counts not what we just pretend to do.

Allah knows best.

sorry for going little further.

[nia_khan]

What i dont understand.. why cant people mind their own business?

No one has any right to judge who is pious or not ... thats HIS job :~)

[hmcq]

Hijab ho ya na.. what you portary is up to you. Just like we should not judge people cause it is not for us to judge so also we should not wear a cloth to make fasle pretenses that we are pios especially when it done with the arrogance of "we" against "them- the non hijabis". If people are allowed to choose their religion and beliefs then they also have are allowed to do or wear whatever they want without be pressured.

[Chaltahai]

Does taking off the hijab equate to a makeout session? If that was the case it would be easy now wouldn't it? because I have seen many a hijabans locking lips with boys all over london and New York.

[PakistaniAngel]

i dont wear hijab but ive seen alot of gurlz wiv hijab kissing n huggin otha boyz in high skool n sum also take it off afta cumin 2 skool..

[Nadia_H]

Originally posted by hmcq:
Hijab ho ya na.. what you portary is up to you. Just like we should not judge people cause it is not for us to judge so also we should not wear a cloth to make fasle pretenses that we are pios especially when it done with the arrogance of "we" against "them- the non hijabis". If people are allowed to choose their religion and beliefs then they also have are allowed to do or wear whatever they want without be pressured.

[armughal]

even this is no valid excuse to throw off the hijab....

[BrainMasala]

point-less thread

[hmcq]

So just to play the devils advocate. I have seen more non-hijjabans kiss and lock lips then hijjabis.

Does that mean anything for those who do wear hijjab?

[Dai_sista]

this topic.. has been discussed before..However!

Hijaab has a far wider meaning ... it doesnt literally mean the head scarf.. Hijaab is not a garment nor just one specific action. Actually, hijaab is a set of laws governing the interaction between males and females. The laws of hijaab are not restricted to women alone. Rather, even men must abide by the laws of hijaab.

What you described above about the girl mingling with men in school, shows that there is no sense of Hijaab... once that sense of Hijaab has been removed these are the likely outcomes.. its sad but true!

May Allah azwjal have mercy...

[khan_sahib]

suroor, u don't sound any different from that aunty u mentioned who was trying to demean the non-hijabis.

on the other hand, these type of aunties should be stopped forcing their daughters to wear hijab coz it is just making their girls life difficult

[armughal]

^
alternatively they can give their daughters (and sons) a good enough "tarbiyat" so that they wud not need to be forced to wear hijab....
and once they wear hijab willingly, their actions will also reflect the purpose of hijab....