Assalam-o-Elekum
The story I am going to tell you is a cliche'. An old story, but you will find it being repeated every time and every where. I am sure that each one of us has come across this situation and have been asked the solution of this dilemma. I am also positive that most of you must have a very mature and concrete opinion about this issue. I would like you to share your ideas on this issue.
So what do you think of a boy and a girl who know each other for a while (say for example they work in a same office, or study in a same class, or may know each other very well because they live in a same area). They understand each other, respect each other’s feelings and most of all they like and love each other. Despite the fact their family back ground is different, their social and cultural differences are deep and above all there is a huge financial disparity between their families, they have very good understanding between each other. They are so evenly happy and optimistic about their future that they decide to marry each other How ever when they discussed this matter with their family, they are shocked to hear that those differences which they think are trivial, are so important for the their parents that they decide to oppose this marriage strongly.
Let me stop my story here. Listening the story up till now, few questions arise in my mind and may be few more in your mind.
My questions are
1) What do you think about those socioeconomic differences? I know that they play very important role in interpersonal relationship, but the question is to what extent should we allow them to play this role?
2) What do you think about the boy and the girl? Knowing the fact that they have these differences, do you think that they should not have even proceed further and they should have stopped in the beginning of their relationship.
3) What about their families? Are they justified opposing this marriage even they know that both girl and the boy really like and love each other and it would be disastrous for them if they do not get marry?
And the last question .
4) What do you think the boy and the girl should do now ? (They tried their best to convince their parents but in vain.).
[This message has been edited by uicdoc (edited February 06, 1999).]
The story I am going to tell you is a cliche'. An old story, but you will find it being repeated every time and every where. I am sure that each one of us has come across this situation and have been asked the solution of this dilemma. I am also positive that most of you must have a very mature and concrete opinion about this issue. I would like you to share your ideas on this issue.
So what do you think of a boy and a girl who know each other for a while (say for example they work in a same office, or study in a same class, or may know each other very well because they live in a same area). They understand each other, respect each other’s feelings and most of all they like and love each other. Despite the fact their family back ground is different, their social and cultural differences are deep and above all there is a huge financial disparity between their families, they have very good understanding between each other. They are so evenly happy and optimistic about their future that they decide to marry each other How ever when they discussed this matter with their family, they are shocked to hear that those differences which they think are trivial, are so important for the their parents that they decide to oppose this marriage strongly.
Let me stop my story here. Listening the story up till now, few questions arise in my mind and may be few more in your mind.
My questions are
1) What do you think about those socioeconomic differences? I know that they play very important role in interpersonal relationship, but the question is to what extent should we allow them to play this role?
2) What do you think about the boy and the girl? Knowing the fact that they have these differences, do you think that they should not have even proceed further and they should have stopped in the beginning of their relationship.
3) What about their families? Are they justified opposing this marriage even they know that both girl and the boy really like and love each other and it would be disastrous for them if they do not get marry?
And the last question .
4) What do you think the boy and the girl should do now ? (They tried their best to convince their parents but in vain.).
[This message has been edited by uicdoc (edited February 06, 1999).]
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