do you know when to say NO!

[~Amber~]

okay im not sure if this goes here but if it doesnt then will the kind moderator move it to the appropriate forum


situations always vary but

at what point do you say no? do you go to yerself.. this isnt right or i wont do it and do it anyways.. or do you stand up foryourself and say no.. i know its a vague question .. but just curious..

do you have a problem saying no.. and to whom in most cases or do you grin and bear it.. or are you a yes sir yes mam(sp) kinda person..

[BoSS]

Whats so hard about the lil word 'No'...I find myself in situations where I can't say it...but I have always felt that is better to say NO than to give a false impression.

ciao
"not-so-politically-correct-sometimes" BoSS

[Sheraz CT]

amber kisko no kehna hai? tell me ..main keh doonga tumhari taraf say

[Sehar]

I am the kind of a person that will avoid conflicts and problems as much as possible...it try to keep things in a healthy environment at all times, but sometimes people like to push your limits and then they need to really get it, and you have to give them a piece of your mind.

It's kind of ambiguous to explain how will i react to situations becuase they all tend to differ in their intensity. I think i do pretty well at handling situations that require a "NO" somewhere along the line. I guess it's just the instinct that someone is taking a bit too far.

[~Amber~]

sheraz no thats ok.. i know when to say no most of the time .. this is a general just blah blah topic u know.. nothing specific..

but ya i hear you sehar .... when pushed to the limit and i think you want to say no.. you bite your tounge and grin and bear it.. but eventually there comes a time when a "no" is warranted..

[~Amber~]

boss.. do you ususally find yourself not saying no.. to your family most of the time.. or mostly at work or with friends..

is it true... that they say that men usually have no problem saying no.. yet women will say no with an explanation..

[yOuNgBrAt]

I just say hell no.....

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[NaikLarki]

>>>will the kind moderator move it to the appropriate forum <<<

Amber, after reading these kind words, i just can't find the courage in moi to transfer it to somewhere else...so ...NO!

*wot was that campaign Bush senior started...."Just Say No!"*

[Bharysh]

i think as u get older "wiser" (supposedly anyway, i have yet to reach that point) it becomes easier to say no. u care about people less and yerself more.

[X_Communist]

Originally posted by Bharysh:
i think as u get older "wiser" (supposedly anyway, i have yet to reach that point) it becomes easier to say no. u care about people less and yerself more.

i thought it was the other way around..-as u get older, u learn to respect other pplz feelings - compared to being care free in ur 'younger' years.

[Bharysh]

lemme rephrase...

it's like- in yer younger years.. you worry all about what others think about u....just want to fit in and go with the flow. when u get older, you begin to understand you need to do what you need to do, for yourself, and don't pay too much mind about impressing others.

[Roman]

No.

[Girl from Quraysh]

No is a lil' word, but then, a lil' pebble can make alot of ripples *rueful smile*

I don't know why, but i find it hard to say no, even when its necessary. Not that i don't say it..i mean like you say Amber, there are times when there's no avoiding it.
But then why do we have such a strong aversion towards saying no? Is it cause we don't want to upset those we're dealing with, or is it because we don't want to experience the sense of rejection, not just that that comes from us saying 'no' but that that comes from the other side upon our decision to say no--i wonder if i'm making sense-- but either way, our negative feelings of having to object/reject decisions,plans,ideas, even people seems to stem from one form of fear or another...maybe like bharysh says we're afraid to say no, because we care too much, not only about ourselves, but the impact of that word on those around us..

[ashik]

i stay for the truth and for the rights of human biéing.

NO keh deta hooN agar kissi aur kay rights misuse ho rahay hoN ya if its not true and right to do something in my opinion.

but in fact only girls say always NO, meri taraf say to janab har waqat YES hi hai!! magar koi Girl YES kehti hi nahiN meray liyay. MaiN kya karooooooooooooooooooN ??????





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[BoSS]

>>>boss.. do you ususally find yourself not saying no.. to your family most of the time.. or mostly at work or with friends.. <<<
If I could say NO to my family my life would have been a lot different....but then again I do say NO where I believe I'm right and u know BoSS is always right ahem...

>>>is it true... that they say that men usually have no problem saying no.. yet women will say no with an explanation.. <<<
Yeah I agree...Like if I ask u out for a coffee or somthing... I know u wouldn't say NO but just give me a polite explanantion, right?

ciao
BoSS