Backbiting....solution to elimination....

[X_Communist]

Although i've never experienced it....i fear it because i know ppl who constantly experience it.....and judging from their experiences, i believe it is a really bad 'habit' which is destructive to both the person who does it and the victim...

I've also noticed taht it is a very common problem in our pakistani culture....

the point of the post is ....how do we eliminate such a problem taht is also considered a major sin in islam?

i mean, we care about our salaat, our haaj, our rozas adn etc..but when it comes to backbiting....its all good

your views?

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Some days you are the bug, some you're the windshield

[Muzna]

Refuse to listen to gossip. If someone starts telling you .... politely change the subject and let them know that you will not partake.

Works. Trust me.

[The Watcher]

ARGH!!!

Backbiting and Backbiters the union between crotchety-minds and their SICK plans. Really shows what they really are - a indescribable collection of yeasty ape puke.

I thing, backbiting is worst kind of social disease we have in our soceity. It destroys relationships and leaves you unworthy of anyones trust.

People who backbite should be ashamed of themselves - its hedious, sycophantic and it makes them look like total stupid-idiots and nothing more.

YOU take it easy.

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[This message has been edited by The Watcher (edited February 01, 2001).]

[X_Communist]

ok muzna, i take ur word for it...

watcher,,,,whoa ....thank you for that "calm" reply ....glad u got it all outa ur system

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Some days you are the bug, some you're the windshield

[The Watcher]

Some hadiths on these ill-mined people of our society who practice such a stupid act of backbiting:

QURAN says:
“And spy not, neither backbite one another. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it (so hate backbiting). And fear Allaah. Verily, Allaah is the One Who forgives and accepts repentance, Most Merciful.” [al-Hujuraat 49:12]

It was reported from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:

“The Muslim is the brother of another Muslim; he does not betray him, lie to him or forsake him. The whole of the Muslim is sacred to his fellow Muslim – his honour, his wealth and his blood. Taqwa (piety) is here. It is sufficient evil for a man to despise his brother.”

(Narrated by Muslim, no. 4650; al-Tirmidhi, no. 1850).

It was reported that Anas (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “When I was taken up into the heavens (the Mi’raaj), I passed by some people who had nails of copper with which they were scratching their faces and chests. I said, ‘Who are these people, O Jibreel?’ He said, ‘These are the ones who used to eat the flesh of the people and slander their honour.’”

(Narrated by al-Bukhaari, no. 6095; Abu Dawood, no. 4253).


Now the biggies KNOW. http://www3.pak.org/gupshup/smilies/hehe.gif

YOU take it easy.



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*V~V~V*He came, He saw, He conquered*V~V~V*
______________
-_-_-_-High Priest_-OF-_Painful Truth-_-_-_-
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And say: "Truth has (now) arrived, and Falsehood perished:for Falsehood is (by its nature) bound to perish."
(Quran, Al-Isra, 17:81)

[analyze it]

Originally posted by Muzna:
Refuse to listen to gossip. If someone starts telling you .... politely change the subject and let them know that you will not partake.

Works. Trust me.

I agree with eery words you said. But it is human nature. It is like addiction. There is so much pleasure in backbiting that you can not imagine. It is simply human nature and you can not defy human nature and human psychology. However you may condemn it.



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