Rudeness

[Andicat]

People on this forum can say what the heck they like about me, call me names, like hooter (Sanam) Chooray (Aiden) and if I had to name them all I would definitely have to count my fingers and toes. Yet if I happen to retaliate in any way I am criticised. Suddenly Islam is brought into the general discussion on a general topic. Why? Because I am sure it does teach tolerance and not rudeness. I don't think I can tolerate the injustices here, and neither do I want to perpetuate the hate. If my posts were read carefully and not segements picked out you would see I stood on neutral grounds. OK if a person is born in Pakistan and happens to enter a pageant in another Country which requires neither reglion, nor politics as criteria and then that person (or persons as there have been many in States and UK representing their place of birth) there is no reason to be rude and say represent Sri Lanka or Jamaica. I'm ashamed to admit I hail from Pakistan now after this. I really will deny it. There is nothing proud about bigotry. I used to defend racist remarks made against Pakis in the UK now I think I will just ignore it like I will ignore the racism encountered from some of you (you know who you are)My crime? I am not muslim, I do not dress Eastern and I happen to associated with the Land people forgot. Thats why most of you are out there in the West studying for the degrees that will bring you the spoils you crave for. Take it back to Pakistan? I doubt it thats why most of you take 20 years to get back there. I am not against Pakistanis but some of you are definitely against me and the World I live in and you work/study and live also in - USA, UK, Europe. Prejudice is both sides. I have been lucky. Not all muslim women wear traditional dress and swear and name call, some on this board. Are these good women? Tut! tut! There are none as blind as those that can see. And if my beauty offends, do not gaze upon it.

[Sheraz CT]

andicat i just wanna say that Islam is great but unfortunately most of the muslims arent that great..so just dont let these ppl bother u..dont worry and be happy

[nia_khan]

so u r leaving right..koool..

[sherrybaba]

I have to agree with you about ppl calling you names, it is really sick and depressing!.. but you also have to keep in mind people would never appreciate arrogance , inconsequence they would definitely start saying something abusive which is again not a good excuse to be like that..
Try to have a positive approach in your attitude you will see a big difference
Again I'm not criticising you the way you are ..you seem perfectly ok to me but some ppl here are very sensitive and emotional only "if you care", deal with them tactfully ..I'm positive they wont act the same way..



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Yarooo mein bara pareshan ek larki jawaaan
Hai woh barii shaitaan mujhay kar gayi hairaan
Kaisay karoun inkaar wo jo karaing Izhaar

[Sheraz CT]

Originally posted by nia_khan:
so u r leaving right..koool..

didnt expect to hear this from u nia..sad

[nia_khan]

sherazzz....sorry

but u should have read what she wrote... and i took it pretty easily..now i cant..sorry buddy..

be kool andicat

[SSultan]

Andicat,I am sorry to see that your feelings got hurt, and you are forced to protest by posting the topic about rudeness. Sorry, guys and gals it is not the way to present you argument, I bet you can prove your point by remaining in the limits of decency. Calling names will lead you nowhere and it will be of no avail either. If you want to preach the words of Allah SWT please do in the manner His prophet did.


"Good words cost nothing but they can buy everything."

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[Sultan]

[Sheraz CT]

Originally posted by SSultan:
Andicat,I am sorry to see that your feelings got hurt, and you are forced to protest by posting the topic about rudeness. Sorry, guys and gals it is not the way to present you argument, I bet you can prove your point by remaining in the limits of decency. Calling names will lead you nowhere and it will be of no avail either. If you want to preach the words of Allah SWT please do in the manner His prophet did.


"Good words cost nothing but they can buy everything."

nicely said buddy

[ammarr]

i kinda agree.. but andicat was almost begging to be called names... again i dont have anything against her.. but against her *self-proclaimed-beauty*.. if she stops praising herself.. i dont have any problems with her... and pls people go and read what she called everyone(she was calling everyone ugly etc without any forethought)... its nice n easy to act mazloom but its kinda hard to see that you're wrong too...

[ammarr]

Originally posted by SSultan:
Andicat,I am sorry to see that your feelings got hurt, and you are forced to protest by posting the topic about rudeness. Sorry, guys and gals it is not the way to present you argument, I bet you can prove your point by remaining in the limits of decency. Calling names will lead you nowhere and it will be of no avail either. If you want to preach the words of Allah SWT please do in the manner His prophet did.


"Good words cost nothing but they can buy everything."

very true.. i know i can get hot headed at times.. and its wrong..

[Andicat]

Thank you for understanding Sultan, though I know I have no allies on this board. It is pro Pakistani. I thought I was Pakistani because I was born there and I was given the title of MP in Miss Asia show. I originally came on the board because there was a thread being spoken to me on Rag bukbuk area and Amber from Gushupp brought this to my attention. I was then perceived as this vain person and attacks upon my looks and character were hailed at me though none of the people have a clue what I'm really about and vice versa except what the media portray. I was brought up in Western society but did not have a clue nor was advised that this title would cause a stir. So then I came back and mentioned Ayesha and Resham who is Miss Lahore 93 and Pakistan 93 (I dont know whether she did this there or in USA) and Miss Pakistan Net 99 and I said I am sure she will get the praise she deserves (being sarcastic). Anmarr I never ever insulted anyone first. I had a decision. Take the insults and everyone would perceive me as a doormat (scared, quiet) or retaliate and stand up for the injustice being called ugly when you know well that I would have been eliminated from the Miss Asia and Miss Carribbean and Commonwealth (two major shows, on par with Miss UK). However after receiving my titles my boyfriend objected to the publicity and attention I was getting so gave up pursuing Miss World, and Miss Universe. Right now on Indian forums the Miss World is getting criticised for same thing being ugly etc. If you study degree and get certificate, no one calls you brainless so why call a beauty pageant Queen ugly? She is in competition with those IN the show and representative of whatever the prize. So what if there are other modest beautiful girls who do not or are not allowed to compete? Good for them if their boyfriends, husbands think them more beautiful or the common woman on the street. Being in the limelight is not about being modest. Neither does it make you bold. I responded to the insults because I am competitive but in my day to day life I am not vain and looking in the mirror. I am quite natural because I was born that way. I do not feel uncomfortable with who I am but it seems some of you do. No worries, I am a singer now, and my CD is being played in parts of USA and Karachi shortly. Please don't buy it. It's too hot for some of you!
Thanx

[~Amber~]

i don't think you should, nor do i think you do take what people say about you or your appearance or title to heart, rude ppl are everywhere.....there is nice and not*so* nice and common sense would tell you that.... not everyone will agree with what you're doing.. but at the end of the day.. you live your life, they live theirs, doesn't mean they can't have opinions.. like you have your own opinions... good luck with whatever you pursue.

[SSultan]

See people now we moving on. What is said is cannot change it. We are here to share knowledge, wisdom, tell jokes and have fun. Do not let this rudeness kick in. We all know we have the talent to call names so there is no use of demonstrating it, instead, show how much wisdom you got.

If you want to know any person, see how he/she behaves when he/she is angry. Because everyone behaves nicely when in good mood.

Take care



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[Sultan]