Are You Judged by what You are served

[BoSS]

So I was talking to my one of my cousins in Pak the other day...during our conversation we figured that we have a common acquaintance...well his exact words were 'oye u know that az ole...' so I inquired why he addressed him in that manner...he replied that once he went to his place on a formal invitation and he was served "tea" which was below average by any standards. It was so bad that it made my cousin embarrassed instead of the host....
In a situation like this is it the host who doesn't have the manners or is it the guest who doesn't hold any repect in host's eyes or is it a wrong way of judgement to begin with.
Its just an example but I think its a big thing how you are served, especially in our desi community. Does it tell us about different personatities and what they think of us?

ciao
BoSS

[Roman]

I'd say if it was a planned, formal invitation then it goes against the host.

If you don't know the host well enough already, how else you are gonna judge him/her?

[Rarediamonds & Gold]

Some people are just ignorant. They don't know any better and therefore, they are not well aware of the etiquettes of hospitality. Whereas there are others who are so hospitable that to them it doesn't really matter wether they know their guest well enough or not. They would treat the guest with utmost respect and care, simply cuz it's a guest at their home.

Bottom line is that if one treats their guests really well, it reflects the softer/caring side of the host's personality. And if the invitation is made ahead of time in advance, and upon the arrival of the guest if the host doesn't serve well, then it does send out a negative message on the host's part. Kiyun kay hur anay wala apna rizq apnay saath lata hai, isi liyay mehmaan Allah ki rehmat hotay hain. Magar kuch loag mehmanoon ko rehmat naheen zehmat samajhtay hain.

[cat-woman]

You know, among desi people it's like a competition as to what and how much you're served even if you go casually visiting for just a little while. But then again, I think it's all part of the culture really...khana peena is a big thing and we enjoy it a lot so that's why we also have high standards whether its proper khanna or just chai and snacks. People go out of their way to make you comfortable in their homes and do lots of khatarein, which I like about our culture...