Dating 'Cougars'

[outlaw]

Dating older women has never really been my passion. It all changed when I met this Iranian woman at a Christmas dinner last night at my friend's place. Her maturity really complemented her sexiness. Her style, way of communication and manners made me feel attracted to a woman who was at least ten years older than me. Couple of times during our conversation I was really tempted to ask her out for a coffee. However, I resisted due to a mere fact that I didn't see any long term implications in that kind of relationship.

Has anyone of you been in a similar situation?

[This message has been edited by outlaw (edited December 26, 2000).]

[aMiGo]

goddamn boy, things you mention I looooove, mature girls are just so ¤smooooch¤, with all due respects girlies! But elder women ? neeeh...

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[^DerVaisH^]

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[Roman]

A passionate, wild, sinful affair with an Iranian, older woman and you resisted the temptation due the mere fact that you didn't see any long term implications in that kind of relationship?

Outlaw, you are an idiot.

[lancerz]

yep, it all sounds quite cheezy & slippery, but as outlaw himself pointed out....the longterm implications are not worth it, given the age difference of 10+
amigo & others amigos ....true, the temptation is great... the touch of character, confidence & maturity that comes with age in a woman is hard to resist, but.... longterm implications

[outlaw]

Originally posted by Roman:
A passionate, wild, sinful affair with an Iranian, older woman and you resisted the temptation due the mere fact that you didn't see any long term implications in that kind of relationship?

Outlaw, you are an idiot.

Man, if this kinda relationship were to take place, it would be just sinful and nothing else. That means the attraction was only sexual. There is no chance of settling down with a woman who is like in late thirties. It might have been perfectly OK had it happen five years ago. I think in the early twenties it's hard to control raw emotions. But not now. It might sound wimpy, but I think my own maturity just didn' allow me to proceed.

[Roman]

oh oh, he's going through that all-too-familiar phase. Outlaw, you need to undergo some brainwashing, you are talking like a preppy. Give me a call.

But seriously, do what you want. But you gotta know first what you want, if you do, good for you. But don't let your programmed instinct dictate you.

[cat-woman]

Outlaw, does your question apply to guys only? A lot of girls find older, mature men veerryyy attractive and my friends and I do drool over men with grey hair, Richard Gere types (we're all 20 yrs old now).
But so what if she's 10 years older? That shouldn't stop the prospect of something longterm. That's why I had that post 'Age Aint Nothin But a Number'...I was going through a personal crisis at that stage actually. Can't believe I'm admitting it now...he's 13 years older and I flatly refused but now I'm wondering whether I made the right decision...

[Geniusliar]

OUTLAW,

Most of the women I have dated are older than me. Usually 2 to 4 years older. I have no problem with it, but I have resited marriage with them, because many of them do not want kids - and i most definately want kids.

In fact, I've only dated 3 women younger than myself.

But these days, I'm focusing on dating younger.

Older women know exactly what they want, and they know who they are as a person.

Younger women don't know who they are, but it's enjoyable to share their journey with them in finding out.

You choose what you enjoy.

I'm trying younger for a while...