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    What Should He Do?

    A friend came to me with a question yesterday and I'd like to know what you all would advise him.....

    You see, he's quite successful in his life....that is to say, he's not rich but he's happy. He lives quite comfortably and easily (or so it may appear to the outsider) accomplishes goals that he sets out for himself.

    He travels on holiday a fair deal and gets to meet and mingle with many celebs and revered personalities in our and other communities.

    He has a rewarding career and a now....a long awaited soul-mate at his side.

    The problem is there are those amongst his circle that appear to be quite jealous. They talk about him...obviously in a derogatory manner. They sometimes try to imitate him....compete with him....I guess you get the picture.

    He says that he's tired of such petty people and wants to, after a long time of not doing anything about it, speak up.

    I don't know if that's what I think he should do. I've always been the one to say, let them do/say what they want and move on.

    What do you guys think?


    #2
    >>>The problem is there are those amongst his circle that appear to be quite jealous. They talk about him...obviously in a derogatory manner. They sometimes try to imitate him....compete with him....I guess you get the picture.<<<<

    how does he know that? Does this kind of behavior occure in front of him, or while he is not present in that company? In terms of them competing with him, what is wrong with that? For imitating, he can also try imitating them. Derogatory remarks are a more sensitive issue. I think he needs to loosen up a little bit.

    If I were in his situation, I will say the hell with this circle and get into another circle where I am more comfortable.

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      #3
      I concur. People do talk..but one should be comfortable in the circle of friends that one would not be dealt with or talked about in a negative manner due to jealousy.

      if its a general community circle, to hell with them http://www3.pak.org/gupshup/smile.gif they will talk no matter what.
      The greatest trick the devil ever pulled was convincing the world he did not exist. And like that... he is gone.

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        #4
        What you perceive is coloured by the background you have, at least to a certain extent. "putting all your eggs in one basket" especially as friends are concerned is not healthy.
        If your friend no longer feels welcome or cared for by his friends, he should try and shift his interest at least partially, something that enriches him from a personal and spiritual point of view. There are many alternatives, basically in the following fields:

        - exercise and sport
        - religion and culture
        - social service and voluntary work

        these will probably also allow him to come into contact with other people and see other things that have escaped him.

        Something I have found very useful to remember when others have spoken badly about me, whatever the reason, is that they are speaking for themselves, they cannot ever speak for me. Only I can can speak badly about myself!

        good luck!

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          #5
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          , he's not rich but he's happy. ........
          mingle with many celebs .
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          you got to be kidding . He is not rich but mingles with celebrities . what is he a bar attender http://www3.pak.org/gupshup/biggrin.gif
          he sounds like a looser and loosers should be canned
          you probably won't like my reply but thats how it is

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            #6
            I feel sorry for the guy.... http://www3.pak.org/gupshup/frown.gif http://www3.pak.org/gupshup/frown.gif

            He should move on and find some real friends who care for him..

            MS
            http://www3.pak.org/gupshup/devil.gif

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              #7
              you got to be kidding . He is not rich but mingles with celebrities . what is he a bar attender
              hehehehe.......SHEZI that was too funny. http://www3.pak.org/gupshup/biggrin.gif

              Muzna I think your friend is too conscious of himself......he thinks of himself more then what people think about him.....why he lives in people's mind tell him to live with his own…….tell him to differentiate among people…….not every one is after him for what he owns….some of us in this world only require a good behaviour from other person…….I hope it is not the case that your friend likes to be surrounded by those people who praise him all the time and he gets offended by those who picks on him.

              BTW I am still too curious about his profession……???????

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                #8
                Quit the friendship with those who speak behind his back or relationship if they are relatives. It will make him more happy rahter than speaking up. Khoon jalanay say kia faeeda.

                I feel more happy when people talk behind my back, because then I feel that they think I am something better than them, even if I am or not doesn't make a difference but by doing so they are making themselves infirior to me anyway.

                Ciao.

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                  #9
                  The thing is, once you become succesful, people aspire to be like you. When they cant see that happening, they will go out of their way to ridicule you purely because they are jealous.

                  My advice to him would be to just let it be; let them say what they like. Do not take any notice and once they see that he just doesnt care they will let go. Trust me, it will work!

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