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    My Love for my Motherland

    Many of us (myself included) have contributed here and have done a lot of Pakistan Bashing. Some of us are guilty of this more than some others. I believe that this bashing comes out of love (as Achtung pointed out in one of his posts after a visit to his homeland). All of us (at least most of us) are guilty of only looking at the cons and we loose sight of the beauty and the attachment we might feel. This post comes out of my unconditional and unshakable love of my land.

    I do not support a lot of discriminatory policies of the Pakistani government, nor do I agree with the direction the country is heading towards, but it does not mean that I am not interested in my country. It will be a stupid assumption even to imagine that. People leave their motherlands behind for various reasons, some to avoid religious persecutions, and some for economic reasons. Mine was a matter of convenience as I married an American while I was student in England, and USA seemed a more appropriate place to make home so both of us could find work. I would have been as happy living in Pakistan as I am here, but my spouse will have a much harder time adjusting (language barriers, employment opportunities, etc.). Making USA my second home does not mean that Pakistan is not my home anymore. In fact, to the contrary, Pakistan is my first home, and it will always be my first home until the day I die. I am grateful of the sacrifices my parents and grandparents made to give us freedom and a place we can call home. My grandfather fought in the WW2. He was a POW in Burma by the Japanese (was given a meal of few grains of rice, and was made to drink his own urine in captivity). My dad fought in the 1965 war with India for his country, and if the time ever comes that my motherland needs me, I would not hesitate for a second to answer the call of duty.

    However, I believe that Pakistan is heading in a very wrong direction with increased religious intolerance (Shia Suuni conflicts), increased discrimination against migrants, increased inter-ethnic and divisive policies of the Government, increased intolerance toward religious minorities. It is becoming an increasingly lawless state. Where does the problem lie? I believe that it is a result of various factors and not just a single reason. Perhaps the most obvious being the feudalism. Those who are familiars with the recent history (well, it is only a 50-year-old country) know that no matter what form of governance we have the faces never change. Whether it is a Republic (Skindar Mirza), an experiment in Socialism (Z. Bhutto), Dictatorships (various) or Islmically influenced legislators (current regime), the faces of the power-players behind the realpolitik never change. It has always been the same handful of families who have dictated and decided the course of action. That is where the real problem lies. I read in a book somewhere that even if given Communism to run the affairs, Scandinavians will make the best of it and will do well for their nations. I do not fully agree with such views, but it does strike a chord.

    We are a nation of very hardy and warm people whose cultures have been enriched by many external forces (using a negative to find goodness), and we can learn from our heritage and richness to make our nation a place for all to live peacefully and enjoy the beauty that it offers. Our culture (we have so many) is very rich and very vibrant, our lands fertile and our visions conciliatory. There are very few places in this world that are as rich as our Nation. Although India has a lot more diversity and richness, but we also share some of that richness with our Neighbor. When Mark Twain refers to India as the birthplace of Civilizations, he means Pakistan as well.

    We all contribute to our land one way or another. Some by getting mad with the current situation, and some by working the current situation to its advantage. The solution lies in the mixture of both approaches. If some of us here get a little too emotional about certain issues, that should not be viewed as hateful act of that of a resentment. It is only because of our love of our country.

    One way of gauging how much love you have for others is by reading the heat, the higher it goes, the more love you have (although not in all cases). If my reading once in a while goes off scale, it only means that I get so upset with the current state of affairs.

    I wholeheartedly believe that Pakistan has enough room for many belief systems to thrive and flourish in, as has been the case for 3000 years. I also believe that our disagreements on this forum are only a result of our unconditional and unshakable love for our motherland. Some of you may not agree.

    Now you are all invited to a dinner of ….. a Biryani (of course Halal meat), drinks (Rooh Afza), and some sweets afterward.

    God Bless Pakistan!

    P.S. I don’t just mean Allah, but God of any color, shape, form, religion, gender, or sexual orientation.

    A very good post NYAhmadi......I am moved..



      As CM so rghtly says, a very moving piece of Text. If only all pakistanis where ever the reside would think this way!!!!!!


        Excellent. Constructive criticism is the only way forward and this is the type of post I can relate to. In truth, I don't mind even the other stuff (pigs, alcohol, etc) because behind what might seem like offensive notions lie some important concepts. Provocative posts can produce stimulating discussions and that is a good thing. NYA is a clever guy, and while I wouldn't want what he proposes for my country, I don't doubt his sincerity. Not many others are prepared to go where I take them but NYA's never ducked out of a fight.
        Which is just as well because there will be plenty more to come!


          What about me and others like Mohabbat, durango, faridm, ZZ..


            Probably one of the only posts you've written, that didn't make me cringe. I enjoyed it, thanks for sharing!


            PS: My grandfather fought in Burma as well.


              This one was nice to...

              Deal with the faults of others as gently as with your own.


                That was beautiful….thanks for sharing


                  Here are my two cents

                  It is indeed a sombre reflection by NYA, but a teasing question arises which requires analytical approach to get to the core of the problem. Oh btw, my grand father also fought in Burma, but I dont recall him telling us that he was made to drink his own cola, (as Murarji Desai, the ex Indian President used to say).

                  While it is true that one may draw temporary benefits by saying one thing and doing other, but as you've all seen one loses the trust of others when exposed.It was indeed a very good attempt by NYA to put a good face or present himself a patriotic Pakistani, but what if he is saying so with the delibrate intention of not to act on it. This is downright duplicity.

                  People neither feel ashamed nor guilty by saying one thing and doing another. We have lost all such sense of guilt. so because of this we do not take statements on their face value.


                    Thanks for your understanding. Baykhatr Dear, I only have one face, and I don’t shoot from the hip.(You can be sure that I will be contributing here with a lot of controversial issues! I think Pakistan should legalize gambling). I just have a funny way of showing my affection for my country. I only want the best for my country, as I strongly believe that Pakistan has the potential to be the best and most friendly country in the world. It is relatively a young nation, we have come a long way, and we are now at an identity crises stage, which is making our lives hard. It happens in every development cycle. Soon we will find our place.

                    It is also comforting to know that there are others here whose Grandpas fought in the WW2. I come from a family of soldiers, and my experience with soldiers is that they are a phylum into themselves. Not two soldiers are alike; the only element they share is their love for freedom. Some are shy so they might not share their hardships that they experience during wars, as they don’t want to give their captives a bad name – another ‘great quality’ of a true soldier. A true soldier always respects his opponent in the battleground. A true soldier always treats his captive with dignity and respect. Japanese are perhaps most notorious for humiliating their POWs. But Japan has learnt the lessons and lets hope that future generations do not have to go to wars, and that we are able to resolve our disputes without firing a shot.


                      *sob* *sob*
                      i am moved

                      love Pakistan
                      love Pakistanis


                        NYA......>>.......I only want the best for my country......<<

                        yet in the same breath you want alcohol, swine, and gambling to be legalized in Pakistan. And then you have the nerves to say that you dont shoot from hips????

                        What are we missing here???


                          Thanks for sharing NYAhmady.

                          what about fathercountry?


                            Dear Baykhatr,

                            Discussing controversial issues is not the same as ‘shooting from the hip’. My definition of shooting from the hip is not giving others a chance to voice their opinions. If all these things become legal in Pakistan, how would that make Pakistan any less of a Nation? What is keeping our country backward is not the legalization or banning of these values/items, the shutting out from the process is what is keeping us behind. The true test of your beliefs and faith is when you are provided with something and you refuse to practice it. No one is forcing ‘banned’ items down anyone’s throat. You have your opinions, I have mine. Mine are as valuable as yours. If you want to discuss these issues, let’s do that. But don’t just automatically assume that your definition of Love for country is better than mine.


                              Bakhtyar : Dude I dont agree with a lot of topics that NYAhmadi starts, but the way he has articulated his feelings for his country in this thread is admirable.

                              You said "yet in the same breath you want alcohol, swine, and gambling to be legalized in Pakistan. "

                              Come on Bakhtyar, there are a lot of worse things happening in our country. I am not advocating the legalization of gambling, but......

                              I tell you what saddens me most is the "brain drain" from our country. The effects of this will be felt by our country in about a decade or so and that will not be very good. As always, I say that Pakistan needs a revolution and the control of our country needs to come into the hands of the masses instead of a select few families.

                              Later on