I have been trying my best to help my friends here with their concerns and problems: whether chicken or egg issue, or men in makeup, from eating good food to marital problems. Now I need your help with one of mine.
My old man (Payoo, Aba Ji, Walid Sahib, Dad, Father – all names of the same person) arrives tomorrow from Lahore to spend 4 weeks with my family, mostly to spend time with his grandkids. I am a little nervous. My dad and I have a strange relationship, one of love and hate. I hate his guts, but I love him as a father. Overall, his views bug me. I understand that he is of a different generation and he has his mind set about certain values and issues. I do understand where he comes from, but I have a problem dealing with him.
I promised to myself that I will be very nice to him and will try to not make him so upset. But I am only a human being, and only a weak one, I must say. To me the test of true love and care is that you accept people with their faults as well, and not just their goodness.
If you have any suggestions, or ideas as to how to deal with my Dad while he is in New York, and to make his stay pleasurable, please share with me.
My old man (Payoo, Aba Ji, Walid Sahib, Dad, Father – all names of the same person) arrives tomorrow from Lahore to spend 4 weeks with my family, mostly to spend time with his grandkids. I am a little nervous. My dad and I have a strange relationship, one of love and hate. I hate his guts, but I love him as a father. Overall, his views bug me. I understand that he is of a different generation and he has his mind set about certain values and issues. I do understand where he comes from, but I have a problem dealing with him.
I promised to myself that I will be very nice to him and will try to not make him so upset. But I am only a human being, and only a weak one, I must say. To me the test of true love and care is that you accept people with their faults as well, and not just their goodness.
If you have any suggestions, or ideas as to how to deal with my Dad while he is in New York, and to make his stay pleasurable, please share with me.
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