Proclaiming the name of the one you love

[CrackPot]

This happened to a friend of mine...

Her parents think that maybe it's time for her to get maried and they are now forcing her to get "close" to this family friend who has slept with more women than there are days in a year and has a record of getting drunk and was even in jail for drunk driving and jailed for the death of a passesnger due to driving under the influence of alcohol and maybe something more stronger too.

She lost her head last night and told her parents (as she had told them before) that she loves someone else..and that someone else loves her too. There was no way in hell she was marrying the jerk they suggested or any one else for that matter.

When I talked to her thus morning she said she wasn't surprised at the talk to getting married...every gal goes through that...but she was surprised and deeply hurt at her parents choice.

At the same time she felt proud to have the courage in her heart to tell her parents the name of the man she loves and to be able to stand up for herself.

I just hope the man she loves knows how much faith she has in him and doesn't let her down.

What would you have done in her place?

[faizy]

first ? make sure of the future... EVERYTHING else is secondary.

[CrackPot]

Originally posted by faizy:
first ? make sure of the future... EVERYTHING else is secondary.

But yaar the future is uncertain...isn't it?

The best she can do is trust that the man she loves will ALWAYS be there for her... thier bond needs to be strongest...

Not one that is broken by anger or misunderstanding..rite?

[lastknightess]

Good for her...I hope the guy she loves appreciates the stand she took for him

[chodhry]

hmmm.

these are two seperate decisions.

i) not marying with the guy her parents wanted to (still i wonder why her parents are acting so blindly?)

ii) taking stand for the guy she loves. (I hope he's sincere with her and wont take her down)

If i wd her, i wd not confuse the both. i mean i wd not make "loving another guy" reson for not getting married with tht jerk. its just not acceptable regardless i love someone else or not.

May Allah be with her.

[CrackPot]

You are right my friend...she did do 2 things...she defended her right to marry whom she wishes AND had the guts to tell her parents what is in her heart...

I guess she looks at the one she loves as the source of her strength which means she trusts him and can count on him which is a good thing..in a way

[chodhry]

Originally posted by CrackPot:

I guess she looks at the one she loves as the source of her strength which means she trusts him and can count on him which is a good thing..in a way

Well CrackPot, yess its good to have faith in someone than not having it at all, and it will also help her to be strong against this unfair match. I have all the good wishes for both of them.