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  • lakkis25
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    Originally posted by SindSagar View Post
    Lagta Hai Aap fas chukay howe......................


    speaking from experience r u...................


    just kidding...............
    we both are from same place and same school, we know each other from age 10

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  • SindSagar
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    Originally posted by lakkis25 View Post
    she says, mother tongues are different, she didn't mention whether they both understand or not,

    be clear , galti karoge tho fas jaoge, yeh tho shadi hi
    Lagta Hai Aap fas chukay howe......................


    speaking from experience r u...................


    just kidding...............

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  • goodnews
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    Originally posted by lakkis25 View Post
    she says, mother tongues are different, she didn't mention whether they both understand or not,

    be clear , galti karoge tho fas jaoge, yeh tho shadi hi
    Fas nahi Phans

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  • lakkis25
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    Originally posted by SindSagar View Post
    Definite advantage here................................


    No one understands the others Curssing..............:biggthumb
    she says, mother tongues are different, she didn't mention whether they both understand or not,

    be clear , galti karoge tho fas jaoge, yeh tho shadi hi

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  • SindSagar
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    Originally posted by Muzna View Post
    Somebody from your own culture?


    What if you both have different mother tongues?

    How will these things impact the marriage?
    Definite advantage here................................


    No one understands the others Curssing..............:biggthumb

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  • lakkis25
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    Re: How Important Is It to Marry . . .

    Originally posted by Muzna View Post
    Somebody from your own culture?

    What if the person is of the same religion but does not share the same cultural influence that you have grown up with?

    What if you both have different mother tongues?

    How will these things impact the marriage?
    How will these things impact the offspring?

    And finally, are the circumstances changed and can one expect the results to vary for females as compared to males?
    may be they have different Mother Tognues, but they should have atleast one language both can speak, if not both will remain dumb in the house
    everything depends on the understandings between both and every couples is different
    nahi to...
    pehle TV se shuru karo,agar ghar pe ek hi TV hi,they will fight to watch TV of their mother tongues, each want to other to follow their cultures and
    beech me bachhe marenge, aur jab unke shadi ke time ayega tab, then they have another topic to fight
    But they will be a good pair.. good entertainment for Neighbours

    here are the real life examples i have seen
    one of my friend married to his collegue, they are both same religion but different castes, their languages are different and culture is also different both are from different states, both are living happily.. it all depends on understanding between them

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  • Sara516
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    Oh so reviving old threads is allowed again?

    Will give my two cents later

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  • Kikoy
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    Well since you asked for my opinion....

    All marriages are hard work, but inter-faith/caste/race/culture/class take all the more effort. And I believe that they do work out. All depends on the people involved.

    So my conclusion is its not so much as problems arising from inter-faith/race etc marriages. I believe its more problems from inter-personality relationships. If you are in synch with each other ... even if you are different backgrounds and have different likes and dislikes... you can make anything work. If you respect each other individuality you got a great thing going.

    My two cents from my experince of different background relationship.

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  • deejah
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    i agree to u code red...and i think that arrying a person frm ur own cultur MATTERS ALOT AND IS VER IMPORTANT

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  • Code_Red
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    Originally posted by aly-sam View Post
    For me this is a gem of a post....

    Thanks for reviving this thread Code_Red
    It my pleasure

    All comments are very articulate and focused. Found them very interesting I thought of reviving it, and people may add more to it.

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  • Ask99
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    Originally posted by chintu_bhopali View Post
    All i can say is beggars are not choosers!!!

    Then dont be one...there is more to life then a man/woman

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  • Ask99
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    Originally posted by Jack Handy View Post
    1. Preferably from your own culture.

    2. Its better if they have similar shared religuous and cultural values.

    3. Better to have a similar language.

    Well marriage is about compromise, the more
    things in similar - the less compromising one needs to do. Consequently a better level of understanding between the couple. It all depends on how committed the couplw are to the marriage and to one another. Marraige is not a rite of passage, - it is probably the most important decision of our lives- so we need to really think it over. Becuase in the end it is probably THE MOST relationship in your life, parents pass away, siblings drift away, children grow up and move out, it is the spouse that sustains and nurtures what is essential in your entire life.

    My observations: ( pitfalls to avoid).
    Men

    1. I wanna a model Liz Huxley
    2. I wanna a maid.
    3. I wanna be in control
    4. I wanna legal status
    5. I wanna sex ( badly)

    Women:

    1. I wanna a tall hunk - Pierce Brosnan
    ( Every body was looking for a tall
    guy - There were only 3 guys 6ft
    and above at ISNA at mat)

    2. I want money - ie an MD
    ( at ISNA almost 98% of the women
    preferred a physician/Lawyer/Engineer
    in that order respectively
    Since I was doing the mat paperwork
    volunteers have their privileges ).
    3. I wanna be in control.
    4. I wanna impress my friends


    My observations, Traditionally, Pakistani
    men are nuts. I want this and I want that an I want yada yada yada - too many demands of desi men in Pakistan. In contrast ABCD girls,
    raised in the relative comfort and security in the US have demands, I wanna this I wanna that yadi yadi yada.. - The sad part is that marriage will not address personal inadaquecies.

    It is the maturity that counts......
    Very Interesting observation

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  • Dushwari
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    Re: How Important Is It to Marry . . .

    marriage is a very beautiful event that can happen to anyone. being with the right person is essential.
    it is necessary to be able to know him or her with full confidence, kindness, mutual regard, care and honesty.
    this is a friendship, which always will need trust and grace t be truthful to each other.
    same culture matters in a huge way, so that your spouse may speak easily to your parents and is able to be a strong partner as a couple's example for community's sake and the couple's own sake for timeless bonding that cannot be broke by anything in the world.
    similarly, religion will matter if you and your spouse follow it carefully.
    culture will matter, as long as you follow its good values.
    difference in these things' effect on the off spring and the couple's own relationship can be really telling as they will trickle in the absense or presence
    of the same.
    things can go either way, yes, in case of a marriage between a couple that has differing backgrounds.
    but when things grow out of proportion, and are GROWN out of proportion, then the best efforts to save any marriage or to build one on gentler and genuine grounds, will go amuck, when language, religion, culture is perceived to be the same, when actually it is worse or the same in ignorance and deceit, greed and doubtfulness so on and so forth.

    best,
    Dushwari

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  • Kikoy
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    I dont understand that chintu_bhopali

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  • chintu_bhopali
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    All i can say is beggars are not choosers!!!

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